DDay Dec. 17, 2010
Sorry long post. Argh....where does the trust go and how do I get it back? I haven't posted in a while. I have been seeing a guy for 3 months. He has seems to be of good character. I think I have mentioned we are of different races, he is a sheriff, doesn't smoke or drink. Seems to play by the rules. We live about an hour 20 minutes from each other and we usually see each other once a week. He calls every day just to say hello and ask how my day went. He has rented out his house and moved in with his aging mother to care for her. I do not go to his home because it is not in a safe area of the city. And given this past Thursday night in the city I know why I don't go there.
That is the history, this is my issue. This evening he called while doing errands and sometimes if he runs in the store he will call me back when he gets back in his car which he did tonight. His last stop he said he was picking up some home made tamales so I asked where he was getting them from. He said this lady makes them so I asked how he found out about them...he hesitated then said someone from work brought them and said she sells them when she makes a batch and I guess she was making some today. The hesitation in his response caught my attention (I guess that was a trigger) Anyway he kind of rushed off the phone. So, I thought he'll call me back later and something didn't sit right with me so three hours later I thought I'd call him. No answer, no call back or text at all tonight. We have had the exclusive discussion and agreed to go exclusive.
End result is I feel the trust issues creeping up inside of me and it is ticking me off that I am having issues trusting. I guess it's because I never expected my XWH, the person who was supposed to love me until the end (after being married 32 yrs) to cheat and leave. I don't expect much out of someone I hardly know.....Some how I keep thinking trust has to be built over time. How do we build that trust?
Me BS 57
Him WH 58
M 32 yrs - together 40 yrs
D-Day 12-18-11 (WH didn't want to R)
Divorced 6-21-12 Done!
If the grass is greener on the other side....water your own lawn.