Being sick is a very major trigger for me. In the days prior to my wife's second (and last) encounter with her AP all the way up to D-Day I was extremely sick. Not sure what but we guess extremely bad food poisoning or something. I hadn't thrown up for well over 12 years at that point and all of a sudden I couldn't keep anything down. Not even a sip of water. I dehydrated quickly and in all honesty probably should have gone to a hospital, but I was too weak and stubborn. Figured it would pass. Then figured I was dying. Go figure...
Our daughter was throwing up for a day as well and my wife too (the day following her second encounter). But I took the brunt of whatever it was.
In the days leading up to the second encounter when I started feeling ill my wife mentioned a friend wanted her to go over to their place and watch a movie or something. She'd mentioned it briefly before. In reality he was cajoling her into giving him a blowjob. They had originally planned it for the night in question. I honestly questioned her why she would leave me in a state like that to go out and she didn't answer. Hours later she said she changed her mind and would stay home to look after me. Reality? He told her he was busy and she'd have to suck his dick another day. I actually wish I was kidding.
While expelling every bodily fluid from my body for days on end my wife seemed to try and take care of me. At least when the worst was going on. I even sat in our bathroom, looked up at her and told her how much she means to me and that I was so grateful she was taking care of me and loving me when I was like that. Sure... and she simultaneously bitched to her AP about having to do so.
A mere day after starting to recover from it was D=Day.
All told I barely ate for nearly 3 weeks total and lost almost 40 pounds. My wife had to eventually nearly force me to eat because she feared I was going to starve to death.
Oh, and I rarely get colds or otherwise fall ill, and when I do most people can't even tell. The year following D-Day? Nearly weekly illnesses and constant immune system problems. The stress of her affair was killing me.
This year in the days following D-Day while we were waiting for our son to be born I again fell sick with some sort of stomach flu or food poisoning (this time neither my wife or daughter were sick). I found it deliciously ironic in the worst way that nearly a year to date after I was afflicted by the same thing yet again.
So yeah, being sick massively triggers me and I always think back to that week leading up to D-Day.
It bothers me to no end that my wife was putting someone else (that she didn't even care about no less) above me during such a time. That bit still sticks in my craw.
I have gotten better though which is a sign for me that things are improving. I haven't had a cold in months until just last week and it only bothered me like they used to. Didn't really trigger as much either.
Me: 30 ~ Her (FR2012): 29
Together: 11 years, 2 children
D-Day 1: April 19, 2012, D-Day 2: September 13, 2015
Surrender to the truth of life.