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It seems as though STBXWH is a different person when he and OW are together. They've been together and broken up a couple of times since dday (yes, it's a solid relationship, lol).

It seems as though he's more aggressive and nasty toward me when they're together and I'm wondering if this is common.

I've had NC to him for almost 2 months, but now that they're on the outs, he keeps sending me sad emails.

It is somewhat common, Rainbows. Often, the glue that holds a WS and AP together is the common enemy they paint the BS to be.

Keep your NC shields up, especially when he's being sad.

My WH does the exact same thing.

Diddo here, Rainbows.

NC is tricky (for X, anyway) when I manage it for longer periods of time and he doesn't know what's happening with us.

Whenever X is friendlier, or letting emotions show, I tend to suspect an OW tiff or a wish for ego feed that may not be coming from there, so needs to be fed somehow, like the cat when no one's home.

ETA that it's really cool that you're questioning it...and good for you on the NC!

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 4:46 PM, September 22nd (Sunday)]

I think it is pretty common, I think it's trying to 'prove' to AP that they are over you and put on the tough guy act. Kind of see I'm nasty to ex-spouse you (AP) are my number one priority now.

I actually prefer it when my ex is being nasty because then I know what he is up too. If he's been nice then he generally wants something or I'm about to be hit by something big.

Can always guarantee when things are rocky in the relationship he is a real prick to me.

Yep! This happens to me as well.

I am the enemy. After all, I am the bitch that was and is making him miserable! After I am out of his life he will be completely happy!!! Yeah....right!