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Stop  Posted: 1:00 AM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The day after my last physical (ladies, you know the one) was the day I started my PA. One of the things my BH asked of me (post-DDay, firmly in R) was to get checked each year. (I usually avoid physicals, probably FOO issue.) It's been 14 months since that exam and 13 months since DDay. I have an appointment this afternoon. I have no reason to believe that AP gave me any physical maladies, but I'm feeling anxious about this exam anyway. Also, we moved to another country about 9 months after DDay. The good news is that we don't worry about bumping into AP and the location triggers aren't here. However, I'm seeing a doctor (a new one, of course) who speaks pretty good English, but it's not his first language. Oh, and he's a guy; I've been reassured that there will be a nurse present. I know better than to expect any sympathy for my nervousness about this visit from my BH; I am wondering how other WS (WW especially) have weathered this one.

That seems pretty rambling. Let me sum up:
Never been checked for STDs before; never needed to be.
Never tolerated physical exams; avoided whenever possible.
Uncomfortable about doctor: a man poking around down there, English not his first language, not sure what to expect.
BH asked me to do this for him. Not expecting sympathy; I brought this on myself and him and us.
Physical reminder of A (for which I am eternally remorseful and ashamed).

Thank you.

P.S. Why is there a stop sign? I'm still learning about the icons.

[This message edited by Neznayou at 1:02 AM, September 23rd (Monday)]

Him: BH 1969
Me: WW 1973

Wedding: April 9, 1994

Son: 1998 (college freshman)
Son: 2002 (high school freshman)

Caught at AP's house: 10 Aug 2012

I do not have it all together.

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Red  Posted: 3:07 AM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have no reason to believe that AP gave me any physical maladies
We'd love to think so, but you never really know a person.

Is there a way to get a female doctor as opposed to a male? Maybe that'll help with the anxiety little?

I'm not a huge fan of exams. Never was. It's invasive, uncomfortable and in my case, painful. I've tried to trick my brain and say, "Well the doctor sees thousands of women a year. It's no big deal. It's the best for my health. Blah, blah, blah." But when I walk in a room and see those stupid stirrups, yeah, the brain tricking goes out the window. At that point, I just grit my teeth and cringe till it's over.

I can't comment on the STD testing as my As were emotional. Maybe someone else can chime in on that.

At any rate, good luck at your doctor visit.

[This message edited by Aubrie84 at 9:17 AM, September 23rd (Monday)]

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