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 Newlease (original poster member #7767) posted at 3:50 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013

SO and I worked at my house this weekend, trying to get the jobs done to put it on the market.

SO has worked so hard in laying tile in the kitchen and is now starting on building a new wooden porch over the disintegrating concrete stoop. I am not a person who can sit by and watch while someone else does all the hard work.

So I helped dig post holes with a twisting post hole digger, and I helped load 50lb bags of quickcrete in the trunk of my car. He kept telling me I didn't have to do it, but I was determined to help.

Today I am paying. I have let my exercise routine lapse in the last year which has not done me any favors. Everything aches - neck, shoulders, knees, back.

The good news is that we got two of 6 posts set yesterday for the porch. Now to set the other posts and start laying on the decking. At least the weather is supposed to be nice this week.

No point in this other than I'm feeling pitiful and looking for sympathy.

NL

Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 3:55 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013

Think of it this way - you started back on your exercise routine and got something productive done in the process.

No pain - no gain... and you are getting back on track physically.

meh, I'm not sure I'm even convinced by that...but it was worth a shot!

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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Bebba1171 ( member #33857) posted at 4:14 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013

I need a youngster like you around my house!

Lifting bags of concrete is no picnic.

Impressed!

Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 54Me) / XWW 52
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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 Newlease (original poster member #7767) posted at 4:26 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013

I'm 52, but I feel more like 82 today. If I had maintained my fitness routine (cardio and weight lifting) I probably wouldn't feel so bad.

The upside is that I have some real sweat equity in the house and the changes are going to help it sell (I HOPE!)

NL

Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 5:46 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013

Look at it as sweat equity in your body too. Use it to spur a renewed exercise program.

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

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Eranda ( member #6010) posted at 1:44 AM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

I helped my parents close up the lakehouse on Saturday (lots of hauling and cleaning and more hauling), and on Sunday a friend and I rebuilt my front porch steps.

I am BEAT. Could hardly move today- a combination of stiff and sore, and a hip that needs to be replaced.

I try to console myself by remembering that all that work burns calories LOL.

But I'm with you- I cannot do what I used to do anymore. And it sucks.

My Blog: http://allofthewaystohell.com/

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InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 5:07 AM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

I worked on building a deck all July and August and by the end of the summer I felt some muscles! Gotten flabby again so I guess I need to buy some lumber and start another project. Good for you!

BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!

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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 5:16 AM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

Just think - you wouldn't have been able to do that much without your previous exercise regime under your belt.

I know what you mean, though... this slowing down stuff sucks! But it's a good excuse for more wine, hot baths and chocolate.

[This message edited by wildbananas at 11:17 PM, September 23rd (Monday)]

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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