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cuppacoffee (original poster member #39313) posted at 5:53 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
The husband is unemployed and has been for 4 weeks now.
Today he comes up with a brilliant (in his mind!) idea.
he's going to become a male escort.
He said he knows some people he knows would buy his services.
What the hell!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!
I am beyond pissed and hurt.
Who says that? 
What dumb things have you heard lately?
I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you
sad34 ( member #40358) posted at 6:04 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
That's just horrible!! Is he on anti depressants? I have no words:0
Bs: me 32 WH: 36
Dday: July 2012
LTA: 4years (ea, pa)
Dd-4. Ds-2
My life is shattered unsure about R
HurtsButImOK ( member #38865) posted at 6:10 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
that is all kinds of messed up, sorry you had to hear that cuppacoffee.
Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore
"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 7:16 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
Whaaaaat?
No words. I, for probably the first time on SI, am rendered speechless.
(((((HUGS))))) to you.
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
brokendancer7 ( member #39911) posted at 7:50 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
WTF? Just when you think you've heard it all... You are a strong woman to not completely lose it after hearing that.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 7:50 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
Well bless his poor stupid heart.
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
cuppacoffee (original poster member #39313) posted at 7:51 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
It's like we are doing so good and then he does something stupid or says something stupid.
The worst is that "it was just a joke." and because i'm too sensitive it's my fault.
god i'm a stupid woman for staying with him aren't i?
I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you
StillStanding1 ( member #40144) posted at 7:56 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
takes my breath away... wow.
Really? A "joke"?
This is funny?
I had to actually add a bullet point to my list of "needs" for my WH... Only one bullet point of what I DON'T need: Any jokes or references to sex with other women.
Honestly, I really needed to spell that one out for him? Could he honestly be that dense? On a positive note, at least he stopped. Haven't heard one since....
My heart goes out to you.
Me: BS50s Him: WH50s
M 25 years - DD DS DS
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday - 2/13, S for 1 year, now R
Dagny07 ( member #16928) posted at 8:02 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
Don't worry about the women. "Male escort" could also mean he plans on an all-male clientele.
You might want to clarify this with him 
Me:BW Him: FWH E/A
M: 30 years, together 37 : both guilty of PAs 20+ years ago
CDay#1 Oct 06 (false); DDay#2 Oct 07 (truth from OW's BH)
R: Tenaciously optimistic
iwillNOT ( member #40605) posted at 8:11 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
Cuppa - What Dagny said! Book him up with Bubba, after all, it was his idea! He needs to step up and do his part for the household finances lol!
By far the dumbest thing my husband has said was when I was asking him about why, how, could he have done this to us? He said, it was for us, so We could stay married, it was to help our marriage. WTF? Seriously? I asked him, hearing yourself say that out loud, does it make any sense to you at all? He allowed that, well, not really.
Yeah, I guess not, genius.
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 8:39 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
I guess he thinks living in a tent down by the river doesn't sound too bad. That's where the guy from the show Hung ended up anyway. LOL
Seriously honey, what a selfish ass. He does not deserve you. Take care of you.
(((and strength))))
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
StepAside ( member #29826) posted at 11:49 PM on Monday, September 23rd, 2013
The worst is that "it was just a joke." and because i'm too sensitive it's my fault.
passive aggressive much? Poor muffin was maybe looking for an ego stroke with that gem, but didn't get one...and so yeah it is your 'fault' all sensitive and stuff.
I will start the pot to toss some coins in so that Bubba can have a nice evening!!
Me 48yrs, king of douchebagastan- 50yrs STD infected bankrupt NPD sociopathic drunk thief
countless A's, he is a predator that targets losers like himself
Last Dday 04/12/2010-Divorcing if/when his cumdumpsters lend him some $ or balls to file
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 12:23 AM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
There's a new one from X recently: "these choices chose me. I did not choose them." BA!
And here's some silver dollars for Bubba.
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 6:25 PM, September 23rd (Monday)]
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 12:31 AM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
First of all... WTF???
Secondly - if that was said to me, and I could gather my wits fast enough, my reply might have been...
"You won't make enough of that pencil dick to pay the rent/mortgage/light bill..."
Seriously... In the dumbass of the year contest he takes Double First Prize.
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
RippedSoul ( member #40055) posted at 12:31 AM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
What's with our husbands and these jokes? Awkward ever? Three weeks after telling me about his affair and recommitting to us, we drove to Las Vegas for our son's tournament and drove past 10 signs, each listing one of the commandments. When we got to the end, he said, "9 out of 10 ain't bad!" Hurt (but used to his humor by now), I responded something like, "You'd better re-count; you missed one. (Thou shalt not bear false witness.)" What ARE they thinking?
[This message edited by RippedSoul at 6:31 PM, September 23rd (Monday)]
BW: 55; SLAWH: 52; M: 28 yrs
DD#1--11/30/12 (prostitute 1)
DD#2--1/29/13 (WH confessed: P1, AP, escorts 1 & 2)
DD#3--9/13 (trolling MILF site)
DD#4--10/8/13 (EA with AP cont'd)
DD: 26; DD: 24; DS: 22; DS: 20
I've never NOT edited my posts.
Gr8Lady ( member #36307) posted at 2:37 AM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
You should have replied with, 'I start my second job as a stripper tomorrow night"
What an ass.....
BS: Me (70yo)FWH: HIM (72 yo)) serial infidelities over past 35 years
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2013
friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over a
year a year. Now his health is declining,
among the lack of communication.
Saleschick ( member #39772) posted at 6:45 AM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
Mine joked about me and the OW and we could all move to "UTAH"...I was like WTF!
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