Well, it just never ends....
I can see that the poor communication we had in our marriage is only about to get a lot worse now that I hate his guts and he has gone nearly insane.
Last week I told him AGAIN to stop calling the kids when we are getting ready for school and trying to get out the door. It is disruptive, and sometimes it really upsets them. They are reminded that he doesn't live here and everything is different. He believes that the good morning good night calls are beneficial for children and that is the established routine that they must continue....i think it is just for him and his guilt. I tried just ignoring it, but he just keeps calling and calling.
So, the dumb ass doesn't reply to my note where I layed this out AGAIN for him, but instead he decided to go to the school for lunch to talk to our 8 year old about it.....ummm how inappropriate to put her on the spot like that at her school with her friends at lunch...
He wrote the entire transcript of their conversation. Mr. Asbergers Integrity is a very logical, black and white thinker- so this is how he rolls...
He asked her if she likes when he calls. She says "yes" Do you like when I call to say goodmorning "yes" Did you finish your breakfast "yes"
He said You know you have to get ready for mommy and not be late for school...she says "yes"
So, his conclusion is...."she says she told me she likes it when I call and she didn't tell me that she was upset."
Emotional f**tard
Then He said to me "For the girls' best interest/healing/well being, we can only share exactly the experiences that are actually occurring and work together" Well, that sounds like he is saying that he thinks I am lying!!!!
I simply can not deal with this shit from him. I am already trying the NC thing and yet even that is not working. We go to the divorce therapist who is becoming like a parental interventionist for us because I simply can not talk with him directly without a third party there to validate what I am saying. He will only back off his point of view if the therapist tells him to. And then, sometimes, he still hears what he wants to hear and alledges that she concurred that his calling every morning and evening is fine as long as it is brief. She did not say this at all!!
He also said that the reason our 8 yr old is so upset (she has reflux, stomach aches, fatigue stress related health stuff) all the time is because she wants to have a sleep over at his apartment. Really? He is not getting it that she is upset because HER FATHER LEFT US and our family is BLOWN APART. It is not about a friggin sleepover. I have already agreed to the first one, and he is trying to develop this story line that I am preventing this and I am not. He simply can not see the emotional tsunami he has created. OMG....what do I do with this???? crazy crazy crazy
What. Do. I. Do???