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User Topic: Would she ever change her mind
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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My BW and I have been separated for a little over a month now.
I have been staying at our business until I rent a house in November.

She has stated this was a deal breaker for her and she does not want to R.

We have a 6 year old son and I see her just about everyday. I was dropping my son off from school and spending time there for an hour or so helping out around the house. I was getting ready to go but she said I could stay for dinner and said something about "false hope". I told her that I didn't have any expectations and that I enjoy spending time with her and my son.

I told her that I want to stay too long because I wanted to be considerate and respect her boundaries. She said something about her being sad later.

Is this it? Or could she change her mind in and want to R?

Me: WS 41
Her: BS 39
9 year old
Married 10 years
DDay 7/29/13
DDay 2 1/8/15

D 11/17/2015

Posts: 123 | Registered: Aug 2013
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's not over until the D papers have been signed and even then, there could still be a chance. Continue to work on yourself and be the best father for your son. Consistency in your actions!

MH - 43
Nothing left to give....
"She is clothed with strenth & dignity and she laughs without fear of the future." #BlackLivesMatter

Posts: 7447 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are some couples here reconciling or reconciled even after being D for several years.

Keep working on yourself and respecting her boundaries.

fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.

I edit often to fix stuff ☺️

Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.

Posts: 1814 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
♂ 37958
Member # 37958
Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Noglamour, this is going to take sometime for your BS to decide if its time to R. You will have the good and the bad. Sometimes it will seem like everything is going well and then majority of the time they will be sad and angry. You just have to give them time because it's no longer on your time. Just continue doing your best and take it day by day, but definitely still be there for your BS and son.

Me: WS 31
A : 17 months
Her : BS/WS 26 (ShockedErica11)
A: 3 months
DD : 3
Relationship : 4
Married : 2
DDay : November 2012
Her DDay : June 2013

Posts: 71 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Chamblee
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