This is wrong on so many levels I do not know where to start. She was upset by his response.."How could he send this message to is Daughter? So if my Husband cheats on me it is my fault?" I was relieved that she understood this concept but somewhere deep inside she will always question herself.
What did I not give that he needed? Foreplay does not consist of watching porn in the other room then coming to bed all ready to rock-n-roll!
I am really BS about this statement. Confronting him will do no good. I just might have to anyway. Completely ignorant, self-absorbed, narcissist.
As my sister said when I told her about this:
"If he had a hemorrhoid he would find a way to blame you for it."
Wish he would just stop with the damage to our daughters
I have done this with my own kids, and emphasize to them regularly that I hope if they only learn one life lesson from this mess that it is NEVER okay to cheat on your spouse. I am waiting for the time when my POS says something equally stupid to my kids and I am being proactive to counteract it. Even if he never says it, they need to know they are always worth fidelity, no matter what happens in the marriage.
I agree with Phoenix1. Just let her know your thoughts about the comment in a calm, reasoned fashion. She'll see the difference.
That is way wrong. It says that "your role as a woman is to give your husband what he needs." It says cheating is okay. It says that a man's needs are more important than a woman's.
Okay- sorry to piss off the guys with such generalizations- no offense,I know you are the good ones and I am just talking about the bad ones, but feeling this way A LOT lately given the amount of cheating husbands I know about.....
The thing that chaps my ass is that for how far we have come as women, with great careers, jobs, success, equality- we are still have bend over backwards if we want to keep our marriage solid and "keep our men happy" almost just like our gramma's had to. It feels like you have to treat men like king of the castle, keep their little egos happy and their littler weiners even happier. We must be great mothers, great lovers, planners, house managers, all this other shit.
They do a little more than their fathers did and they think they are doing us a big favor. We think, hey why isn't this 50/50? and it rarely is, but they will be mad if you point that out.
We are supposed to appreciate all they do even if they take us for granted. Yes, I am a little bitter but I feel like I deserve it...sorry!
I've been told that it's part of the illusions that they create to feel better about themselves and live with their choices. It's what he got OW to believe and even though he lied to her, she keeps him. Uggh.
I'm sorry that he said that to your daughter, though, for her and for you that was not right. And must have been somewhat confusing, even with her teenage years.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
Henry Ford invented cars to pick uo girls. Damon Wayne
When truth is it wouldn't matter what you did - there's nothing you can do to make them NOT cheat just as there is nothing you can do to make them cheat.
I had the shittest husband on the planet for at least 5 years. He admitted so himself. Distant, moody, anxiety ridden, critical - he was depressed but refused to acknowledge it so decided to stuff the depression down by having affairs. Nice and distracting.
He wasn't running from me - he was running from himself.
Geez, they really are all the same, aren't they? You could almost set your watch to it.
Until the next time. then the next and the next.
It is not that I don't have the energy, It is the hard earned wisdom to know that nothing I say will stop his stupidly.
Just pray I can do enough damage control with my daughters to make a difference in their lives.