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hopeandchange posted 9/23/2013 20:49 PM

stbxww found a place and is putting in an offer to purchase. So our sharing our home will soon be coming to an end.

It is nearby so it will be easy for me to see the kids often.

I gave her time to find the right place in a tough (scarce) housing market and it has been difficult for me emotionally but I am glad that I have been able to look past the betrayal for her and our kids to have the right place.

Another transition for me and looking forward to it.

h&c

kg201 posted 9/23/2013 20:52 PM

Congrats H&C. That sounds really good about the closeness for your kids.

dbellanon posted 9/23/2013 21:50 PM

As someone who went through an in-house separation, let me add a few more of those smiley faces to celebrate your liberation.

JamieMc posted 9/23/2013 22:49 PM

Unbelievably unselfish, your love for your kiddos while you and WW sorted things out, I applaud you for taking the high road Jamie

mandan66 posted 9/23/2013 23:03 PM

Yes---let me echo dbellanon. Nothing worse than in-house separation, but man, when its over and the WS moves out, it really allows you to take that deep breath and exhale. I also took the high road, and it was so hellish doing it for these months, it has made our divorce (finished this Friday) much easier to survive (for me, anyhow)
H&C, your kids will thank you for this someday.

newlysingle posted 9/23/2013 23:51 PM

Yes, good for you. I can't imagine the hell of in house separation. It would have been difficult for me to not have suffocated the Gnat in his sleep.

I'm glad that your kids will be close by. The Gnat only lives about a mile from me and it is really nice for the kids. I don't like having to worry about running into he and Hello Kitty in the neighborhood though.

AussieMum posted 9/24/2013 00:30 AM

In house separation was horrific for me. It was a huge relief when he moved out - I hope you feel that relief too.

That's great that you'll be close to your kids

7yrsflushed posted 9/24/2013 09:09 AM

The end of in-house S means detachment on turboboost! HandC, welcome to the next chapter. Still lots of ups and downs but the ups last way longer and the downs dimish further over time.

laney57 posted 9/24/2013 18:02 PM

YAY!!!! You're an inspiration H&C and a great father! I'm still behind, but love to hear this!

gypsybird87 posted 9/24/2013 18:16 PM

What great news!

My in-house separation lasted only eight days, and every moment of it was HELL.

I am in complete awe of anyone who can endure an extended period of time like you have done. Good job in doing the right thing for your kids!

gahurts posted 9/24/2013 19:55 PM

As someone who went through an in-house separation, let me add a few more of those smiley faces to celebrate your liberation.

Me too. It was such a relief when xWW finally left and limbo was over. Your selflessness in looking out for the kids best interest is admirable.

Williesmom posted 9/24/2013 20:55 PM

Kudos to you. I couldn't take the separation- I finally just moved his crap out.

tryingagain74 posted 9/24/2013 20:59 PM

So happy for you. I was on the other end of the situation-- the BW who was looking desperately to move out-- but either way, it was SUCH a relief to end that stage.

It was decent of you to let her stay. Here's hoping that her move will be very soon!

Celticlass posted 9/24/2013 21:17 PM

(((H&C))) Mega hugs.....you can do this last bit! Hang in there! It will be over soon, now think about how you'd like to reclaim the space. Those thoughts should take you through the rest of the process.

You have arrived, kiddo! Your new beginning is on the horizon....Aim high