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User Topic: Maybe she is scamming
♀ 40665
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK, I know this is reaching. But I had a feeling about this.

The OW is married to someone who is in jail. She told my WH that she is done with her H and wants D.
Now, my WH is very technologically challenged, he doesn't even text, doesn't know how. He is dyslexic. He doesn't even know how to do voicemail.

My WH recently got a new phone from his company and apparently cannot even get text pics. I was going to try to send himn a pic of our granddaughter when she went to homecoming this week. He told me he doesn't know how it works.
I think she is trying to control what he recieves because he doesn't have any idea how to work his new phone. All he knows is how to make and recieve calls. He has always been this way.

I have filed for D, and I know we both still respect each other. We have had conversations about this.
Am I just being paranoid about the phone or should I just let it go?
Any advice would be appreciated.

Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.

Posts: 224 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Um, if he can open a text picture, he knows how to text. In all the cell phones I've ever had, I had to open the text to see the picture.

That being said, it is possible that a work phone doesn't allow that. Everyone at my work that has a work cell phone has the same phone, but texting is turned off for most of the phones.

There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown

Posts: 13042 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartof, Texas
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Default  Posted: 1:58 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gently, You need to stop giving a shit. I for one would laugh my arse off if he is being scammed.

He is no longer your problem. You are no longer his caretaker. Scammer or not he has made choices and the consequences of those choices are his. Don't forget you are also facing consequences from his choices - focus on dealing with those, not his self-inflicted problems.

If you are concerned about joint assets the talk to your L to protect your interests. Like yesterday.

Detachment will come but you need to work at it. Strict No Contact (NC) is key.

He is no longer your husband, your lover, your best friend. He no longer has your back. He is not your problem.

Repeat until it sticks.

((Gajit)) easier said than done - I know it. Please don't let your hopes stop you from protecting yourself. If you're talking to him while he's still with any other and unremorseful you are not protecting yourself, you are hurting yourself. Further, you are allowing him to cake eat - they'd cake eat forever if we let them.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6010 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
♀ 40665
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He doesn't text, period. He is technologically challenged to say the least.
I am at the point where I don't give a sh!t anymore about him.
I am awaiting on a call from my lawyer so we can set up the final draft for our divorce. He still has not responded to the summons or hired a lawyer. Too bad for him.
If the judge awards me his truck (which I have been using as my primary vehicle) I am going to get a tag for the front that says "WAS HIS"!!!

Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.

Posts: 224 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
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