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User Topic: XW and OM are married
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I forgot to post this when it happened. XW and OM got married on Sunday (22nd).

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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fantastic... Fuck'em. Together they add up to less than dog shit in the gutter. Can't wait until the day you reckon they have the same value. Strength friend!

D-Day spring 2012
Me BS 48
Xcheater 45
One DD 20
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A!

The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...

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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Let's take bets on how long before one of them cheats.

The OW in our case cheated on its first XBH with MOM. MOM & OW lived together and OW started fucking my FWH. OW married MOM and fucked my FWH 3 weeks before the wedding and 3 weeks after. Marriage is so special to them!

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

Posts: 13452 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Screw 'em.....

My XH married his OW 4 weeks after our D was final so I know exactly how you feel.... I keep waiting for that Karma bus to come rolling through his life but it has yet to happen...

DIVORCED! Remarried to a real man!
BW (me) - 41 (now 48)
WH (him) - 43 (now 50)
OW - 23 yr old foreign gold digging whore looking for her American meal ticket
1 14 yr old son (now 21)
married 20 years/together 25 years
D day - 9/23/2009 5pm

Posts: 815 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Mid Atlantic coast
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Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I suspect I'll be relieved when it happens - kinda like when you finally sell that used car that caused you nothing but grief.

Someone.Else's.Problem, IYKWIM?

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6016 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sickening because we know how they honor wedding vows.

FT married Twat within 2 mo after our D was final and they've been together 6 yrs altogether. Now they have a baby and living in her home country of Thailand. Yep, he was still on dating sites as of a year ago.

They all deserve each other.

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20489 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Break out the popcorn and take a seat. The show that's coming up is going to be a good one.

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((HUGS)) can't imagine how you're feeling - either sad, pissed off or indifferent it sucks. But...whether their marriage lasts or not, I hope YOU find the happiness you DESERVE!!!

Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 15 years
3 awesome and beautiful children
OC discovered on Dday - born in 2005
D-Day Summer 2013

working towards D...I can't pretend anymore

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How does your daughter feel about XW and OM being married?

Failure is success if we learn from it.

3 boys: 11, 9, and 1.

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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They deserve each other, remember that.


Me - BW
2 DDs

Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.

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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good god, how tacky.

12/18/15 found out my now EX boyfriend was trolling CL for underage girls. From the cops. The fun never stops.

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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just noticed your divorce was final in July. I always say they are perfect together. Perfect liars, cheater, and losers and nobody else with morals or values will be with them so they have to settle with who they cheated with.

Me: BS 56
Son: 30 years old
Daughter: 28 years old
Divorced 4/10/08
XH passed away 6/24/16

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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well that was nice & quick. And we all know how well quickie marriages usually workout. It's such a truism that there's a saying about it "marry in haste, repent in leisure".

It's also a sign that she's needy and needs to have someone regardless of whom. Funny that bc it's yet another sign that bodes ill for happy happy unicorn, my little pony rainbow fantasyland being a shining success.

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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you mate.....!

So soon as well. Not your problem now as much as it still hurts. Your still a it's new to the recovery. Take your time!

Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

X and OW married last October in my case. It affects me way less than I thought it would however I was very bothered at the time. I just hope that we all get to the point that we don't give a shit.


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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My XWH and OW married a year after and it still stung a little. But. I wish them all the happiness they

They've now been married just over a year and I really don't care at all, though I have no desire to see him.

However, PIC, I hope you're okay - you deserve better. ((Hugs))

Me: BW-46
Him: XWH-46

Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My XWH married the OW one month after our divorce was final; he also pushed the D through faster (the plan was to be divorced by the beginning of this month) so that they could take their blessed vows, and she'd have health insurance and a place to live (since they are now the Paragons of Virtue, and it wouldn't do to have her sleep over while they were not yet married, even though screwing each other while they were married to other people was just fine).

When I tell people that he married her one month after the D, they have all been completely appalled right across the board. It shows you how desperate, needy, and pathetic they are. They can't be alone, and they will do anything to justify the havoc they wreaked. If they marry the AP, they think it shows how real their love is and how they were meant to be. That means that hurting their faithful spouses, children, and other family members with their selfish behavior was all right in the end, right?

I think that my XWH and his Owife will cling together out of shame, so I don't anticipate a D any time soon. However, I can't imagine rushing to marry someone so fast or basing a marriage on a foundation of cheating. How can that go anywhere except downhill?

Just bear this in mind, as they say on here: "If they're willing to do it with you, then they're willing to do it to you."

I don't predict years of bliss and happiness for any married cheaters. I agree with what a previous poster said-- be glad that your XW is not YOUR problem anymore!

FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm hoping that you are taking an indifferent stance on this OP. Marrying someone on such a shitty foundation is like building a space shuttle out of the wreckage of another ship and hoping it will take you to the moon without issue.

I recently found out that XWGF started sleeping with a family friend about 2 months after Dday. She sees nothing wrong with it and thinks its healthy to jump right to someone else all the while "working on myself" keeps falling out of her mouth. They are weak people who have little ability to be alone and truly deal with themselves. Hope you are doing okay.

ME - A new person
HER - A waining memory
DDay - 2/22/2013
2-3 month EA/PA
Together for 6 years, ready to start my life . . .

"I can fill the flask up, but can't get past us
I'm in the storm, staying strong, but can't get back

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exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, that marriage license is probably worth about the value of the paper it was written on. I used to work in an office supply business. I think the fancy stuff ran about $.03 a sheet.

So, I kinda think that's a 3 cent marriage.....or less.

Sit back with the popcorn and wait for it.....wait for it.....

Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr

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Default  Posted: 5:57 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My xwh and the OW married about a month ago.

Take it easy on yourself, the shock may take a while for it sink in.

I agree though sit back with the popcorn and watch. One day they will get what they deserve because wedding vows are so important to them

Me: BW

Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.

Life's good.

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