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User Topic: Not a religious freak or anything but....
Secrets Kept
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just need to throw this out there for both WS & the AP's.

Has everyone in the world forgotten commandments #7 & #10?

#7 - Thou shalt not commit adultery.

#10 - Thou shalt not covet thy neighbors wife.
(or in my modern day translation.... co-worker, friend, or anyone in a committed relationship, etc)

AND....if that doesn't do it for you, how about.....

I would rather live my life as if there was a God to find out that there isn't, than to live my life as if there wasn't a God, to find out there is!!!!

That last pretty much says it all for me but just some food for thought!!!

Marriage #1=BW-47 (now)
XWH-Deceased on his 36 bday
Divorced in 1996
Marriage #2= Married in 2003
Unknown BH-45 Me-WW-47
2 kids together-DS15 & DD13
"All this time I was finding myself & I didn't know I was lost"

Posts: 271 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest USA
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just sent you a PM. Please read!!!

Exit Wounds
H of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.

Posts: 2691 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Texas
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Member # 38089
Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I dont think some) declared religious people pay attention to those commandments. And I am surprised.

The slut whore bag OW claimed directly to me when we met that she was "a good Christian and wouldnt do anything to jepordize my marriage or her marriage to her husband". What a load of utter crap. LIES ALL LIES.

I personally hope she goes to hell, and if I end up there as well....well then I will show her what I think of her.

[This message edited by heartbroken2012 at 1:41 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]

OW - (former co worker of WH)
Dday: Dec 2012

Posts: 608 | Registered: Jan 2013
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes....many times those that are beating the Christianity, Godly drum the loudest are the ones with the darkest secrets.

Him: FWS
Kids: 18 & 20
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

Posts: 13286 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
SI Staff
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*****Just a reminder that religious debates are against SI guidelines. Let's keep this one debate-free (so far so good, just wanted to post a reminder )*****

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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ow#2 has a crucifix hanging from her rear view mirror.

i often think of that crucifix. What does it mean to her? Someone who would sleep with another womans husband?

Is she hopeful Jesus will save her in an accident??

I'm not a religious freak either, but i was raised to believe in God and to live my life based on the principles He gave us.

One thing causes me confusion and i have to admit, despair:

He loves the ow just as much as he loves me.

For forgiveness, she only has to repent, confess her sin.

And she too will receive all that was promised.

This seems so unfair to me. Like anything in regards to the infidelity i have suffered.

I try to stay strong in my faith, always felt that if we had absolutely nothing, we would still always have God. And this is true.

I dont understand why we should try to live our lives based on these principles, if in order to recieve the promise we can sin all we want and then only say "i'm sorry" and your good??

Maybe i've missed something,,,,,,,,

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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My XWW always claimed her Christian beliefs were the most important thing to her. She wanted to raise our kids "in the church". She comes from a very devout Christian family and she herself was raised "in the church". Her ring of "friends" are all church-going self-proclaimed devout Christians.

Me? I'm not part of any organized religion at all and have no belief in the deities of any organized religion. Agnostic would probably describe me best. I have never been unfaithful to my then-wife nor unfaithful to any girlfriend. I give my word, I make my vows, and I keep them. I'm no perfect man but I'm aware that if you don't have honesty - you have nothing.

I divorced my wife because she lied ruthlessly, deceived deeply, and was trading sex for flattery with one of her friends shitbag neighbors - in turn, making her a worse shitbag. Something she likes to call an "affair". She was committing this well-known "mortal sin" for over a year with the full support, enabling, assistance, and condoning of her church-going shitbag friends who were ALL able to look me and my young sons in the eyes and effortlessly lie to us all over the course of over a year. Her friends could provide many days worth of material for the Jerry Springer Show. A small social circle of toxic, superficial, alcoholic, selfish, tiny-minded people of which a couple others were also committing adultery as well.

Soooo, where do the Ten Commandments come in to play or any one bit of the tenets of their religious upbringing come in?

They don't. At all. They were fully aware - all of them, every minute it was going on, that what they were doing was explicitly forbidden and one of the most egregious sins to commit against the very god they "believe" in.

If anything, all this "Thou shalt not..." gave it more of a taboo, forbidden-fruit thrill to my XWW and her phony friends than actually preventing it. I look back and recall their giddiness in what they were doing

And now?

Well, my reconciliation-wanting XWW claims that she has "returned to her faith" and is forgiven by god, Jesus, etc. so all is good. She prays for this and prays for that. She is always saying that she is praying for something. She says she especially prays for me forgiving her and prays that I will some day "see" her as I did before her depraved "affair".

She sure "prays" for a lot but she WORKS for nothing.

Bottom line is the hypocrisy is stunning to say the least. They could have the Ten Commandments tattooed on their foreheads and it wouldn't change their behavior. So long as they keep looking OUTWARD for their self-worth, validation, and excuses, instead of INWARD, they will keep doing the same broken shit.

I Divorced Her.

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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is simple to me. I choose to go to bed each night with a clear conscience.

Bottom line. Regardless of if cheating spouse got away with the affair without me ever knowing. He knew he cheated. He knew he betrayed me.

Where is the conscience?

BS: Me (65yo)FWH: HIM (67yo)) serial infidelities over past 35 years
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2013

friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over a
year a year. Now his health is declining,
among the lack of communication.

Posts: 741 | Registered: Jul 2012
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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes....many times those that are beating the Christianity, Godly drum the loudest are the ones with the darkest secrets.

Tush beat me to this one.

The older I get and the more people I come across, the truer it is.

Do they not remember the stories and parables from bible school? Have they even read the bible? I know for a fact that not all Christians are like this. It's the ones you speak of that make the entire religion look bad. It's really sad, because it seems that the foundations and principles behind Christianity should be a wonderful thing....

So long, and thanks for all the fish!

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