Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
Oddly, I can't see to let it go that easily...
There really is no need for my WH to ask me questions since I made sure to let him know all of my feelings/thoughts, many times over, since dday.
Why wait until he asks? Just tell him. I think you are correct, you need to address what bothers you, all of it, so you can let go of the resentment.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
But once I had all the "pieces" of the story I decided to write it all down, sort of novel style. It was very cleansing for me. I guess I needed to see the whole picture after having gotten fed one piece at a time. I also wrote my thoughts at different times throughout also. I wrote an entire spiral notebook in just two evenings. It seems once I opened the gates, it just came pouring out of me.
I let FWH have access to it. He actually asked if he could read it when he inquired about what I was doing. He then asked me a couple of questions. It was the bridge we needed for him to feel safe to ask I guess.
I tell him tho, I have made it and continue to make it absolutely clear to him.
for some reason, I too can't seem to let it drop,
I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.
She has lied so much during this whole thing, that every discussion threatens to bring up the same old things, and she sees no reason to initiate that risk. So she just keeps quiet whenever she can.
me - husband A46
her - wife A42
Married 17 years
D-Day August 2, 2009
3 kids 11, 13, and 15
Why THEY did what they did?
What THEY are going to do to heal?
etc. etc. etc.
This is all so backwards to me.
Sorry to break into this conversation. I do NOT consider myself to be in R, but I come here often to just try to see what it COULD BE like if we did.
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
I'm paraphrasing many, many discussions here, but you get the point. There really is nothing she doesn't know, because there were no secrets, on my part, during her A.
So once again, thank you for your thoughts. It has helped me take another step forward towards rebuilding my M.
[This message edited by meplusfour at 11:12 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)]