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Epiphany of sorts

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Peanut5 posted 9/24/2013 16:15 PM

I was thinking (obsessing) over ow again. And I suddenly realized that in some strange way, doesn't that mean that in some ironic way that I would be having a one sided affair I don't tell him that I'm thinking of her. And sometimes it's at times when I should be focused on him. Or something else important. Sorta made me realize the harm I'm doing

jo2love posted 9/24/2013 18:02 PM

(((Peanut5)))

I don't look at it as a one sided affair. She caused you pain and your brain is trying to wrap itself around how this could have happened. It normal to have thoughts about the OW/OM. As time passes, the thoughts will lessen.

ladies_first posted 9/24/2013 20:17 PM

Commending you on your insight.

Another good question to ask yourself -- when you get stuck on obsessing on anything in life -- is:
What am I getting out of this?

Usually it comes down to control or anger or safety, all of which are masking FEAR ... and stalling forward action.

Perhaps a better question is: What am I afraid of?

[This message edited by ladies_first at 8:17 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]

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