Commending you on your insight.
Another good question to ask yourself -- when you get stuck on obsessing on anything in life -- is:
What am I getting out of this?
Usually it comes down to control or anger or safety, all of which are masking FEAR ... and stalling forward action.
Perhaps a better question is: What am I afraid of?
[This message edited by ladies_first at 8:17 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]