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Ambergray posted 9/24/2013 18:40 PM

I have been reading your posts and the healing library for a little over two months. I had my dday in June. WH and I have been married 18 years, with two children. I found out he had an A with OW for about 18 months. It was actually over for a few months when I found out. I was completely shocked and devastated. I cannot imagine a worse betrayal. Everything I knew in this world changed that day. I now look at everyone and every situation differently. My innocence is gone. We are in MC and going to R, but it is still very new and I come here daily for support. I just thought I should finally say hello.

lieshurt posted 9/24/2013 20:48 PM

Welcome Ambergray.

avicarswife posted 9/24/2013 21:00 PM

hi Ambergray,

I was completely shocked and devastated. I cannot imagine a worse betrayal. Everything I knew in this world changed that day. I now look at everyone and every situation differently. My innocence is gone.

I think all of us can relate to this. Suddenly your world becomes a before and after! You view the world quite differently.

I had no idea of the devastation this could wreak on you either.

Keep posting and welcome

cluless posted 9/25/2013 11:32 AM

Well we have the 18 mos. A in common I am sorry for the pain this is causing you, I can relate!

My WH PA/EA was with his first girlfriend of 30 years ago! He wanted to see if he was still in love with her. The first time they committed adultery was 3 days after my BD. I told him that was as low as you can go, but then he had sex with her our anniversary month. So, to me our marriage ended when his heart and lust went to another woman. I'm not wearing my wedding ring anymore. We are trying to reconcile, it is a rough road.

I have had a lot of tragedies in my life. Mom died when I was 16, brother died when I was 19, I came from an alcoholic family, was molested by 4 different family members and was basically not wanted and taught to believe I'm stupid. But THIS is more painful than all of it combined.

Just keep working on you, do what you need to, but eat and drink plenty of water. Wine doesn't count!

MovingUpward posted 9/25/2013 11:42 AM

Welcome

I'm glad that you've found us.

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