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Williesmom posted 9/24/2013 21:02 PM

I've been under the weather lately. Tonight, I'm feeling horrible. All I want is for someone to snuggle me and ask if I'm ok.

The guy I've been seeing has been good, but unable to be here because of work and kids.

Ugh. This is the part about being single that sucks. Thank goodness for the dogs- at least I'll get my snuggle.

k94ever posted 9/24/2013 21:23 PM

I ALWAYS keep home made chicken soup in the freezer, Kleenex, and cold medicine.

I also have a deal with several of my friends that if I call them, they will bring me my favorite soup from my favorite Chinese Food place, leave it on my porch, knock, and run away. I will also return the favor for them

And I have awesome neighbors that will come and take my doggies outside for me if I'm really sick and can't take them outside myself.

But yeah....it stinks when you are single and sick and just need someone to take care of you and snuggle.

k9

Williesmom posted 9/24/2013 21:33 PM

I live in a pretty remote area, so I'm on my own.

My platonic guy friend offered to being food, but I had just eaten. He's an awesome friend.

At one point, I woke up and one dog was licking my arm while another was snuggled up beside me. You're never truly alone when you live with corgis.

She11ybeanz posted 9/24/2013 21:36 PM

(((HUGZ)))

I'm in the same boat... I have laryngitis....it sucks and I've missed 2 days of work so far....I have been so sick that death or a coma actually sounded pretty good. Laying in bed like a zombie...wishing someone would fuss over me and take care of me....and on top of things....I've had my daughter home with me the whole time....so that "time spent resting in bed" was only during my 13 month old daughter's nap times.... which REALLY SUCKED!!!

I don't even have any pets to snuggle with because my daughter would torture them at her age and I love animals too much to do that to one. So, I snuggle with my pillow.... NOT the same btw.

I hate being a single mom sometimes.... and I hate it even more when I'm sick.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:37 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]

Sad in AZ posted 9/24/2013 21:37 PM

I hope you feel better soon. I love how dogs know when you're down or not feeling well.

Must Survive posted 9/24/2013 21:54 PM

Oh oh, I have major surgery scheduled in the middle of October. Not looking forward to it. DS 16 is home, but I have to be strong so he doesn't worry.

Not looking forward to it.

exhausted lady posted 9/24/2013 22:35 PM

I never had a SO or spouse who would even think of actually taking care of me when I was sick. It was a totally alien concept to the selfish SOB's, so when my current SO actually brought me some Nyquil when I was sick a couple of weeks ago - I thought I was in a fugue state.
Hmmm...turns out, guys that really care for you actually TAKE care of you. Who woulda thunk it?

Probably partly my fault tho....when I'm sick I just want to curl up in the fetal position under the covers an be left alone. Even if it means I'm going downhill fast with pneumonia. Lucky for me, my daughter came and dragged my butt to the doc a few years ago. My NPD XWSO sure wasn't gonna bother to do so. He was more put out by the fact that I was too sick to make him dinner.

Asshole.
Good riddance to bad rubbish.

I think I finally found a caring, loving man this time around though.

Anyway, the moral of this t/j is.....you can do it. This too, shall pass. At least if you're single you don't have some selfish SOB whining and getting all P/A because you're not waiting on him hand and foot while you're under the weather. Count your blessings!

Embers2Fire posted 9/25/2013 00:00 AM

The first time I knew for sure that I had met a man worth my time was when I had been to the doctor and had an endoscopy done. I was loopy from the anesthesia my throat was killing me and I was feeling just blah, My now fiancee shows up at my door with a grocery bag full of a the fixings for home made chicken soup, a movie and a brand new fuzzy blanket wrapped in a bow. That was the moment I first thought.... I love this man Being alone when your sick is just no fun at all. So I wish you a very rapid recovery.

newlysingle posted 9/25/2013 01:43 AM

I'm sorry you're so sick Williesmom.

I've never really had anyone to care for me, so it's really nothing new in my case. My XWH traveled for work most of the time. I remember being VERY sick a couple of times and being alone with my dd for weeks on end. It was awful.

Ironically, I get more of a break now that I'm divorced than I ever did while married. I actually had a cold last weekend and fortunately, it was XH's weekend with the kids. It was so nice to just be alone, sleep, watch TV, etc. without the kids demanding every ounce of my energy.

Hang in there and I hope you feel better soon!

HurtsButImOK posted 9/25/2013 02:55 AM

At least if you're single you don't have some selfish SOB whining and getting all P/A because you're not waiting on him hand and foot while you're under the weather

^^Amen to that! My X was one of those who was always sicker. Guaranteed that if you are sick he would be also - but worse.

The first time I was sick living alone it was almost enjoyable. I could actually rest and recover.

((to those unwell at the moment))

cmego posted 9/25/2013 07:14 AM

I've also been really sick, and just thankful that my kids are old enough now to fix their own breakfast and lunch and head to the bus stop.

I've never had someone fuss over me when sick, so I don't miss what I never had.

I also keep an emergency "flu stash" of crackers, ginger ale, gatorade, canned chicken soup...

Oddly enough, I was sick when kids were with ex this past weekend, he knew I was sick and brought me dinner. So odd, but I didn't complain.

woundedwidow posted 9/25/2013 11:28 AM

I'd rather be alone when I'm sick, unless I don't have enough groceries, cat food, or kitty litter. Then I call my lawn guy to go to the store for me - he's a dear. My late H, though a 30 year EMT, would take care of everyone BUT me, so I got used to taking care of myself anyway. The worst I ever went through (this was between 1st H and late H), was driving myself home (a 3 hour trip) 1 1/2 weeks after a 9 hour brain surgery. I figure if I could do that, I can pretty much handle anything in the home.

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