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User Topic: Paternity test
Landoes
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Member # 40222
Default  Posted: 2:21 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, my WGF had the baby on Friday. She looks exactly like me; yet, I am terrified to do the paternity test because I am just in love with this little girl. I can't imagine finding out she's not mine. I am almost certain my WGF never physically cheated (online EA). Frankly, at this point, I don't care what the results are, but I feel I should do it or it will eat at me.
My WGF wants me to do it, I've told her I don't care about it, but if she wants me to do it, I will.

Posts: 70 | Registered: Aug 2013
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 2:25 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Landoes)))

I can't begin to imagine the fear and pain of not knowing. I have some good guy friends, some of them here, who have been through this. You can lean on us.


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

Me: BW 35
Crazz: WH 33
Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16


Posts: 18682 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
AFrayedKnot
♂ 36622
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 4:43 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Landoes)))

I know how you feel. I have questioned the paternity of my son since he was born. I suspected cheating which was confirmed Dday two years later.

This is just for me!!!! I had to look at my motivation. Was my motivation in the best interest of the child? Was my motivation in the best interest of myself? My real motivation was that I wanted to prove that my fWS was lying to me. Then what?
Again, just for me. I have found peace in being the best dad in the world to my son whether he is mine or not.


BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2691 | Registered: Aug 2012
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