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Mack9512 posted 9/25/2013 08:29 AM

One year ago yesterday, I spent the day curled up into a ball on my living room floor crying like I have never cried before. After a very mean and hurtful text message exchange with my then WH, I just couldn't take the stress anymore and I just collapsed. During the 4 hours that I spent on that floor I came to realize that my marriage was done. That the life that I had was done. The my beautiful DD's life would never be the same. After those 4 hours of hell, I stood up, dusted myself off and proceeded to systematically split my life in half. By the end of day, I was completely numb. I turned 44 that day.

Yesterday, I spent the day responding to bday well wishes while inhaling the scent of the 2 dozen red roses that my fWH sent to my office. I gazed at the amazing picture that my DD drew for me, with Daddy's help, while reading the many, many text messages of love and support that my fWH sent me throughout the day. And I came home to a clean house, more flowers and just this amazing feeling of love and respect. I don't think I have been as happy as I was yesterday when I turned 45.

The difference between the 2 days is amazing. We are still toddlers in the R process, but I believe we are building a good foundation for the rest of our marriage. Another trigger down...a whole lot more to go.

SpiderGrl posted 9/25/2013 08:37 AM

Yay! Thanks for sharing! And happy belated birthday!!

jo2love posted 9/25/2013 09:03 AM

Thank you for this wonderful update! Happy Belated Birthday!

bionicgal posted 9/25/2013 10:36 AM

Made me tear up! We are/were the same age at DDay, and I am looking forward to being where you are at when I am 45. I can see/imagine it thanks to people sharing positive stories, so....thanks!

AML04 posted 9/25/2013 11:24 AM

Thank you for posting and I'm so happy for you!

I'm on my first trigger day. This day last year was the first time I told my H I was uncomfortable with his "friendship" with OW. I told him I worried that since they were so close he would develop feelings for her. Of course he reassured me that wouldn't happen. The PA didn't start until Dec but he was already in a full blown EA :(

Eta: happy belated birthday as well!!

[This message edited by AML04 at 11:25 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)]

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