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User Topic: Another trigger day done and gone
♀ 38619
Member # 38619
Happy  Posted: 8:29 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One year ago yesterday, I spent the day curled up into a ball on my living room floor crying like I have never cried before. After a very mean and hurtful text message exchange with my then WH, I just couldn't take the stress anymore and I just collapsed. During the 4 hours that I spent on that floor I came to realize that my marriage was done. That the life that I had was done. The my beautiful DD's life would never be the same. After those 4 hours of hell, I stood up, dusted myself off and proceeded to systematically split my life in half. By the end of day, I was completely numb. I turned 44 that day.

Yesterday, I spent the day responding to bday well wishes while inhaling the scent of the 2 dozen red roses that my fWH sent to my office. I gazed at the amazing picture that my DD drew for me, with Daddy's help, while reading the many, many text messages of love and support that my fWH sent me throughout the day. And I came home to a clean house, more flowers and just this amazing feeling of love and respect. I don't think I have been as happy as I was yesterday when I turned 45.

The difference between the 2 days is amazing. We are still toddlers in the R process, but I believe we are building a good foundation for the rest of our marriage. Another trigger down...a whole lot more to go.

"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

Posts: 440 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: East Coast
♀ 40157
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! Thanks for sharing! And happy belated birthday!!

Me 36- BW
Him 37- WH 6 month EA pushing PA.
DDAY- 7/2/13
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. -Gandhi
Pls forgive weird sentences and spelling mistakes, I post from my phone and autocorrect hates me.

Posts: 101 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: US
♀ 31528
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for this wonderful update! Happy Belated Birthday!

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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Made me tear up! We are/were the same age at DDay, and I am looking forward to being where you are at when I am 45. I can see/imagine it thanks to people sharing positive stories, so....thanks!

me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 3520 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
♀ 39682
Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for posting and I'm so happy for you!

I'm on my first trigger day. This day last year was the first time I told my H I was uncomfortable with his "friendship" with OW. I told him I worried that since they were so close he would develop feelings for her. Of course he reassured me that wouldn't happen. The PA didn't start until Dec but he was already in a full blown EA :(

Eta: happy belated birthday as well!!

[This message edited by AML04 at 11:25 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)]

Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

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