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 prowoman (original poster member #40761) posted at 9:49 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013

Gone snooping today. WHs OW is insecure about their relationship because GUESS WHAT her boyfriend lives with HIS WIFE. My SOB WH is assuring her over and over we don't sleep together, we don't have any contact, and that he is just here for our children. She is the one getting all the passwords to his accounts and transparency while he hides it all from me (so he stupidly believes). ARE YOU KIDDING ME HERE!?

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Clarrissa ( member #21886) posted at 9:56 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013

Even though I'm the FWS, in your shoes I'd be tempted to tell him he can have a D so he could be with his "real wife."

He cheated on YOU for chrissakes, not her. Geez, I gotta wonder if he can taste last night's dinner, his head is so far up his ass.

BH Cee64D - 50
FWW (me) - 51


All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.

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confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 10:00 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013

Fuck that.

Get your ducks in a row and file.

BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10



..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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Simple ( member #18814) posted at 10:00 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013

This is no different from wayward women who feel they are cheating on their OM with their BH.

Have you done the 180? Drawn up divorce papers? You know my father thought his OW was just so amazing and free... until she started acting like a wife when they moved in together...

Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.

-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 10:01 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013

prowoman - So he's breaking NC? Time to put your bitch boots on.

((((hugs and strength))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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movingforward13 ( member #38405) posted at 11:27 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013

When are you filing for divorce?

Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

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Tired05 ( member #39609) posted at 11:33 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013

Wooow.

Together 6 yrs. M 4 yrs. DD born 3/1/2013.
Me: BS -- Him: 1 EA/PA (6mos), PA (MW), and 6 ONS...Been at it for almost 5 yrs. *Still slave to TT* 1st DDay- 11/24/2012,
.....OC due in August.....

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rescuedog ( new member #39171) posted at 11:58 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013

http://www.forbes.com/sites/jefflanders/2012/12/18/five-best-financial-tips-for-women-divorcing-in-2013/

The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog. - Mark Twain

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crestfallen ( member #27993) posted at 12:00 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

Kick the tushie to the curb!

BS-me-59
WH-59
Married 34 years
OW-Mr. Ed ish! Seriously!
DDAY- 2/21/09
TT until 1/10/10
Working on R and doing well!!

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crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 12:03 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

FTG! File immediately

fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024

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rescuedog ( new member #39171) posted at 12:13 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

I know you are 38 but I love this:

Andy Rooney - CBS 60 Minutes.

As I grow in age, I value women who are over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 40 will not lay next to you in bed and ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think.

If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's

usually something more interesting.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40. They always know.

Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off you are a jerk if you are acting like one! You don't ever have to wonder

where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 40+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.

The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog. - Mark Twain

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Clarrissa ( member #21886) posted at 1:12 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

My H suggests you Hefty bag his shit and show him to the curb. If you want to be "nice" get the good kind - you know, the ForceFlex. You want it to last since he'll probably be using it again when he cheats on the OW.

BH Cee64D - 50
FWW (me) - 51


All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.

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sullymeishadomi ( member #16305) posted at 1:43 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

I wouldnt waste a trash bag on him.

I read your post and was 'oh, so normal. Btdt' til I got to the part where he gave his passwords etc to her. That is one of the lowest crock o shits I have heard in my over 6 yrs on this site.He is so low, I doubt the bottom feeders could find him.

((Pw))

Time to be my own bff.

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AussieMum ( member #36579) posted at 3:24 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

Kick his ass to the curb so quick he'll see stars.

Honestly, what a low life. Get yourself organised and FILE!! Sending much strength to you.

Me 47
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS13 & DD8)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

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Dreamland ( member #40488) posted at 6:23 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

So so sorry... Are you gathering all this info so you can hand it to the lawyer.. Do a little test. Send him an email or text asking him if he has seen or spoken to the OW..and then let him digg the hole.. Did you ask him to write a NC LETTER. What's his story??? I hate these bitches they are old enough to know its wrong.. When you get ready send all the text emails and pictures to everyone WH and OW know... Blow it out after you have all you need.. Fucking slut..

OR...😈 if you can give her a taste of her own medicine. I would fuck him and maybe take so pics to send her I would torture her will all the things she's afraid of.. And show her. 😁😁😁

Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

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PositiveAttitude ( member #40624) posted at 4:13 PM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

I am so very sorry that you are experiencing this! I thought it was traumatic when my WH told me months ago that he felt like he had been cheating on OW with me for quite a while, but the extent that your WW is taking it to? UNBELIEVABLE!!

BW - 44 - SAHM
WH - 45 - 3 year LTA
Blended family - 2 school aged "ours" children left at home.
DDay (which one?) all in 2013
Reconciling - as best we can

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anewday78 ( member #39357) posted at 4:53 PM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

Think of all the fun you can have with this while you secretly get your ducks in a row and file for D! Building onto Dreamland's suggestion about sending a "test email," I'd send him an email that gets him in BIG trouble with OW. I'm sure you can use some creativity here.

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Getting to Happy ( member #35200) posted at 5:37 PM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

Ditch the douche'. F.T.G.

(((((prowoman)))))

WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown

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callmecrazy ( member #38765) posted at 5:42 PM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

Do you know where other woman lives? Id take his stuff there and dump it in her yard...dirty undies on top and any stains on display. Sounds like they were made for eachother.

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