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rachelc posted 9/25/2013 16:40 PM

There is a business breakfast at OW#2 place of work. He hasn't said a word. We usually talk about what we have planned for our work days the night before.

I'm not sure if he'll not go, go and not tell me or go and tell me.

I'm not going to ask. I'm just going to see what he does, what kind of spouse he chooses to be.

is this the right thing to do?

2married2quit posted 9/25/2013 16:44 PM

It's hard I know, but let him decide. Let him tell you. It's a good way to see where he's at. If he goes, I'd say let him. Maybe seeing OW will bring some sort of closure?

My FWW did it without telling me. I exploded like a bomb and it was just as hard as DDAY. I almost threw up and passed out. However, for her it was a milestone. She needed to see if she felt anything for him and she didn't. In the end, it wasn't a good idea for her to do that. Other consequences came out because of her visit at his place of business, but she got her closure.

heartache101 posted 9/25/2013 16:53 PM

Rachel

You will find out just how far in R you really are.

I would wait it out.
Good luck. You have a way to find out for sure?

rachelc posted 9/25/2013 17:28 PM

You have a way to find out for sure?

yep...

RidingHealingRd posted 9/25/2013 17:57 PM

I too would wait it out and see.

A test...hopefully he will pass. This is what rebuilds trust.

brokensmile322 posted 9/25/2013 20:37 PM

(((RachelC)))

Wow...yes, you should wait it out and see.

But my heart goes out to you...how scary to wait and see.

I imagine it is much like when we all went searching the first few times, when we discovered their secrets.

Wishing you strength to keep silent and peace of mind as you wait. Hugs! You can do this!!

[This message edited by brokensmile322 at 8:38 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)]