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NoGoodUsername posted 9/25/2013 20:50 PM

My BW has decided to start posting to SI now. In my book this is a good thing. She has actually been on the site longer than I have and is the one that pointed it out to me, but just today has decided that she is ready to talk here.

She is already getting some good support. She's tough and smart and I'm doing my best for her these days, but there are things that people who have walked in her shoes can say and do that I never will be able to.

I do admit that it is tough to see our story out in the forums, told in her voice. It is also difficult to read the things that people have to say about me in response to it. Tough, but not a problem. She's being absolutely truthful and fair and even keeping other people's criticism of me factual. I'm so amazingly lucky to be married to her and so amazingly foolish to have betrayed her.

I don't know whether we are going to succeed, but it is my greatest hope to fix my problems and to build a new life with her.

wannabenormal posted 9/25/2013 21:39 PM

You sound pretty good. There may not be many WS who are 'down' with this. You're gonna get beat up, you probably deserve it some (BS here ) but if it helps y'all get through - more power to you. And good luck!

NoGoodUsername posted 9/25/2013 21:52 PM

I still have some beatings coming and plan to face them with eyes wide open. If I duck it, there won't be any learning. :-)

StillStanding1 posted 9/25/2013 21:55 PM

BS here... Way to be strong! I truly wish my WH was willing to read, post, and learn like you are. I know it will be hard, but will make you both better for it.

Just wanted to say I really respect your effort!

wannabenormal posted 9/25/2013 22:01 PM

Adding, when I referenced 'WS' I didn't mean in general; I meant YOU, as a WS...maybe you don't want to hear or face 'it'. I didn't mean to sound like I was generalizing.

My personal WS wasn't down. We are D now and I think it's good if y'all can 'take it' and learn from venting, getting advice and so on.

Wish you the best; I hate when couples can't repair.

tired girl posted 9/25/2013 23:17 PM

This can be a good thing as long as the both of you have guidelines that you both adhere to, in my opinion.

Both my H and I are on here, and it has been good for us. Good luck to the both of you.

aesir posted 9/26/2013 03:09 AM

I guess I will have to welcome your BW here on this thread, and wish you both the best, since I don't know who she is as a member. That's good though, I always find it awkward to try and help one member if I know who their spouse is, kinda tempting to hold back at times hoping that the difficulty is an aberration or something.

Sparkle0504 posted 9/26/2013 09:17 AM

BS here... Way to be strong! I truly wish my WH was willing to read, post, and learn like you are. I know it will be hard, but will make you both better for it.
Just wanted to say I really respect your effort!

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