Oh. I so get this. You are NOT off base.
My WH is the type that needs the ego stroke, the constant approval.
It just makes me retch. My skin crawls - and I have stopped
providing him ego-kibbles...
roses303 Do not "let you of your pride and expectations!! It will not work anyway.
I had the same problem with the MC. Wanted me to skip steps I needed "get over it".
SO FRUSTRATING and demoralizing.
This was done to ME. I am the one who is HURT, not my stupid WH.
I was pregnant, horrible sick and on bedrest when WH came home crying that his twenty yr old OW was pregnant and forcing him to choose.
Obviously he chose me.
It will be a year in october...and although he has come along a bit - there is still so much that he is simply 'not getting'.
And I am the same as you told that I am not receptive and appreciative enough.
Quite frankly, he has not done enough.
You are right. They are doing what should be the baseline behaviour.
Why should they be rewarded for that? 'he is still here - he has not left me", and that THAT should count huge...
I have not gotten flowers
(would love some :D I should go buy myself a big bunch!)
And if he gets frustrated and stop trying, maybe he is really not worth it.... sounds like the MC has the session all set up
to make your WH feel better, and heal - not you...just my two cents..