Yuck! Shame on me! Why did I search!?!?!?
NC NC NC NC NC NC NC
*whispers* On the bright side, though, she's really unattractive. I've never seen her up close. Her profile pic is... *shudder*
Now where was I?
Reminder to all: No good comes of looking them up. Really, it doesn't. It's irritating, to say the least, and an emotional setback at worst. I must be getting closer to meh, though, because it didn't bother me as much as it would have months ago. It still annoyed me, and I shouldn't have done it. She's posting about her faux life, and it only riles me because she's such a hypocrite.
Headed off to block her...
We look because, of course!, we are curious. We want to 'see' the draw.
We look...we wonder WTF the draw is?! So we, or maybe friends look if you don't have a social network page ( insert whistling smilie here) we don't see 'the draw'.
Then we feel silly - now I looked, for what? For nothing! She sucks, XH or WH sucks. Now I feel crummy for 'caring'. Rinse and repeat.
I don't personally FB or really otherwise social network because I'm a bit old-school and don't get it. I talk to those I want to talk to...BUT my bestiest friend in the world DOES do all that. And she updates me on OWifey (as a BFF should! LOL!). Okay, so ignore me... we're looking at OWife's page again.
Of course it's full of totally neato things and great pics!
When's the last time YOU posted a selfie of your PMS'ing belly? When did you last post of money shortage with bills coming or the fact that family pet just crapped on the floor?! Probably never!
I don't know, as much as I hated being curious - I was. I wanted to GET what was so great. My BFF would tell me stuff and I'd think, I guess it's all neat.
But in the end, it ends up being 'real life' for them too. Bills, kids, pets...bullshit.
While I don't love this is how is turned out, I do like that it's only me and kids I have to worry about. Not someone else spending my money, calling shots and so on.
Fuck them! (but I totally get checking in, it's a sickness! LOL!)
[This message edited by wannabenormal at 10:57 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)]
But I got a kick out of one of the wedding photos slut has on hers. There's xpos walking ahead of her, pulling her along (a reference from another thread about the way that can reveal the health of the M! ) and her dress reveals her kankles and fat arms as she hurries to keep up. And then I saw the one of a smiling DS. I know he hated it but just the same..... there's that smile that was captured.
It's a mixed bag, likely better left alone. NC NC NC NC. (((ta74)))
Then I blocked her.
Yeah... block her. I have my ex, the stripper exgf of his, and all his family blocked.
"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink
It is what it is.
Anyway, blocked and ignored. I did take pleasure in the fact that we only had one mutual friend (a LD friend who is really XWH's friend, and we're not the least bit close). I'd like to think that the rest of the mutual friends that XWH and I have might actually have some standards and morals. (Yeah, it's probably because she just hasn't sent them friend requests yet... )
But then I found myself getting really angry after reading her page because she is SUCH an fucking hypocrite...she joined a non-profit service group that helps at risk teens and does a lot for her students at work and everyone thinks she is just WONDERFUL...what a great, giving, sweet person she is to do this! I found myself answering her posts in my head calling her a fucking hypocrite, etc. So I had to just stop. I was driving myself crazy.
Basically, I'm trying to get rid of all negativity, all evidence of her (cleaning out house, etc), no contact (except for Son-facts or business), dropping the memories, no more reminiscing, just letting go. Focussing on me, what I want, having fun with my son, friends, family. Becoming happy with all the good things I have. Just consciously trying to change to a positive world.
IT IS WORKING. Actually, I happened to see stbxw the other day when she dropped son off. Absolutely no attraction to her at all! Used to worship the ground she walked on (shudder). I have found that this healing and moving forward stuff does take time. But, little by little, it's getting better.
So ya, no FB checks, no photo albums, old love letters/cards, no "memories". Went thru all of that, but moving on. Kinda divide-and-conquer mentality, but it's working.
Ps, venting of this site has helped too.
[This message edited by jackfish at 2:59 PM, September 27th (Friday)]