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Divorce/Separation :
Letters from nieghbors?

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 Gr8Panoz (original poster new member #40746) posted at 5:08 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

I included this in my post Rough Week Ahead detailing the week I'm having with my WW. The question is this.

I just learned my wife asked my neighbor, a friend of her moms to write a letter which would show me to be an unfit parent. They declined as I've already talked to them about staying out of it. They wouldn't have had anything bad to say anyways according to them.

Would a lawyer recommend this? Would any negative letters have an impact at a custody trial? I still can't figure if shes got a lawyer in this yet. I saw some articles about support letters in a custody trial, but they were mainly referring to supporting a person not slandering them.

Any advice?

Me: 31 BS
Her: 28 STBXW
Kids: 5 & 7
DDay 8-24-13
Divorce started: 9-5-13
Divorce Final: ?

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 5:49 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

During the custody evaluation I had several people write letters supporting me & my wonderful parenting abilities. A few people went on to put in their 2-cents about STBX, too. I didn't ask them, they did it on their own.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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5454real ( member #37455) posted at 5:59 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013

Custody battles are ugly bitter things. That said, I had 3 neighbors come to court and testify about things they had witnessed during my M. Originally, they had written *support* letters.

XW wanted to challenge their stories so I had to subpoena them to verify their letters. Didn't turn out well for her. Canvass your neighbors. Find out who will support you and have them deposed.

Did I mention that custody battles get ugly?

Strength

BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle

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