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User Topic: Letters from nieghbors?
♂ 40746
Member # 40746
Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I included this in my post Rough Week Ahead detailing the week I'm having with my WW. The question is this.

I just learned my wife asked my neighbor, a friend of her moms to write a letter which would show me to be an unfit parent. They declined as I've already talked to them about staying out of it. They wouldn't have had anything bad to say anyways according to them.
Would a lawyer recommend this? Would any negative letters have an impact at a custody trial? I still can't figure if shes got a lawyer in this yet. I saw some articles about support letters in a custody trial, but they were mainly referring to supporting a person not slandering them.

Any advice?

Me: 31 BS
Her: 28 STBXW
Kids: 5 & 7
DDay 8-24-13
Divorce started: 9-5-13
Divorce Final: ?

Posts: 26 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Idaho
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:49 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

During the custody evaluation I had several people write letters supporting me & my wonderful parenting abilities. A few people went on to put in their 2-cents about STBX, too. I didn't ask them, they did it on their own.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
♂ 37455
Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Custody battles are ugly bitter things. That said, I had 3 neighbors come to court and testify about things they had witnessed during my M. Originally, they had written *support* letters.

XW wanted to challenge their stories so I had to subpoena them to verify their letters. Didn't turn out well for her. Canvass your neighbors. Find out who will support you and have them deposed.

Did I mention that custody battles get ugly?


BH 52, WW 43
DS 24(Mine),SD 22,SS 21(Hers),DS 10 Ours, DGS 4, DGD 15 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 3981 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
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