She agreed to give the dog up as I do not want any reminders/triggers in our lives now that we are trying to reconcile. She had moved back in with me (although she still has a free apt. for her work), gave the dog to her daughter and we were doing well.
Last week the daughter called and said she could not keep the dog. W rushed to the daughter's house, picked up the dog, moved back into her apt. and has been gone ever since. She is starting to waffle on giving the dog away.
I am torn. The dog didn't do anything, but still the W's devotion to it and willingness to leave me have me baffled. I don't think she understands how distressed I am about her leaving with the dog as a motivation.
When she left the first time, it was with the understanding that we were still a couple, the apt. was our "second home" aand we would be together forever. Now, she's making the same sounds, but it feels all too familiar.
What should my response to this be. I've thought about ending it, but I did say we'd try for six months (end of January), but I'm very leery of getting burned again.
phoenixrivers
She can find the dog a good home. Yes, she loves the dog, but it is a dog the AP gave her. Period.
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."
me (WW/BS): 48 him: (BS/WH)52 4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”
Seriously, she's placing a gift from the AP above you?
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/faq_bs.asp#FAQ11
Forget her and the M for a while. Work on healing yourself. Obviously she doesn't get it. Give her the time. N/C, kids and finances only.
When she quits looking past her navel lint and see's what her choices have wrought, maybe you'll be interested in R, maybe not.
