ME - BS 34, HIM - WH 31
WH informed me over the weekend that he hasn't been happy for "a long time" and that he's done. This, after I caught him in flirtatious Facebook exchanges with an employee, and after having worked hard on reconciliation for six months and thinking things were finally turning around, but whatever. As it turns out, he doesn't think we should have ever married because he was "always going to break my heart". Would have been nice to know that 13 years ago.
Anyway...what do I need to know? (We're in MA, if that helps anyone). We have a 5 year old daughter, what do we tell her (other than that mommy and daddy are going to live apart, but we both still love her).
WH is planning to move out. I'm staying put in our apartment with with our daughter, trying to minimize the impact on her since we JUST moved and she just started Kindergarten and is having enough trouble with that transition.
We already worked out a budget where he will pay me a certain amount of money each paycheck to cover living expenses until our lease is up and I can move somewhere cheaper (9 months from now, we just moved in). I'm planning to get him to put that in writing.
He's also asking to come by every other night to put our daughter to bed so he can still see her. (He's a good dad. Just a shitty husband.) I'm okay with this, because it frees me up to do things like exercise/work on freelance work/etc but do you think this will be a problem?
Do I hire a lawyer? How much does that even cost?
TIA for any advice.
Daughter age 6
Together since 2001
DD#1 2/23/13, online EA. Claimed NC but A continued until 3/20/13 when OW called it off. DD#2 4/4/13.
DD #3 9/21/13 2nd EA (with employee). He leaves.