Anyway...what do I need to know? (We're in MA, if that helps anyone). We have a 5 year old daughter, what do we tell her (other than that mommy and daddy are going to live apart, but we both still love her).
WH is planning to move out. I'm staying put in our apartment with with our daughter, trying to minimize the impact on her since we JUST moved and she just started Kindergarten and is having enough trouble with that transition.
We already worked out a budget where he will pay me a certain amount of money each paycheck to cover living expenses until our lease is up and I can move somewhere cheaper (9 months from now, we just moved in). I'm planning to get him to put that in writing.
He's also asking to come by every other night to put our daughter to bed so he can still see her. (He's a good dad. Just a shitty husband.) I'm okay with this, because it frees me up to do things like exercise/work on freelance work/etc but do you think this will be a problem?
Do I hire a lawyer? How much does that even cost?
TIA for any advice.
DD#1 2/23/13, online EA. Claimed NC but A continued until 3/20/13 when OW called it off. DD#2 4/4/13.
DD #3 9/21/13 2nd EA (with employee). He leaves.
Yes, hire a lawyer to make the financial support legally binding. A simple non contested divorce ahold be 3-4 thousand $.
It is good when you recognize benefits such as WH relieving you for freelance work instead of fighting about it
Good luck and tAke care of yourself
I think the tough part is when they figure out that the "long time unhappiness" is still there after they have left us. But hopefully by then we have moved on with our lives and have found more respectful and open partners.
I am so sorry. I got the same crap that WW was always unhappy and we should never have married
Who would expect the WH to say "I'm done"? I thought I was supposed to say that......
Tell me about it. How is it that HE gets the final say??
Try AVVO.com. I was able to find a lawyer in my area to do the separation agreement with as many changes needed for $250. If the time comes, uncontested D for only $350.
Huge difference as the first lawyer I consulted with wanted 2k just for separation agreement!
Thanks! That's helpful. I'll look into that site.
You should hire a lawyer if at all possible. If I were to guess, I would say a lawyer in MA would require at least $1,500-$3,000 for a retainer.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.