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User Topic: Book Question
glaciergal
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Sad  Posted: 4:47 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A few weeks ago a few different people recommended a book in this forum. It was something about how to get over the relationship and move on. I am a BW, DD was last October, I got the "we are just friends." I guess he realizes now that the OW is more important to him than "just" anything, because after some months spent trying to reconcile, he has now decided he is DONE with the marriage. I still love him, still consider him my best friend, and need to MOVE ON. Does anyone know the name of the book that is often recommended here? Thanks. We do have a child/children, but I don't want to get specific about gender or age because it is a really small world. The childr(en) are doing well, but perhaps are feeding off my denial of the real situation.

[This message edited by glaciergal at 4:49 PM, September 26th (Thursday)]


DD - 10/12
11/3/12 - he asked for divorce
11/15/12 - beginning of R
April '13 - he says he is DONE no chance of further R

Posts: 18 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Alaska
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A book that has helped me greatly is "Getting Past Your Breakup" by Susan Elliott.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10040 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
glaciergal
40777
Member # 40777
Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you, NatureGirl. I think it may have been you that recommended the book on here. I will take a look at it.

Forgot to say that we ARE separated but it's easy to pretend that we're not SEPARATED because our jobs have always caused frequent geographical separations. And that might also be why the children have fared well so far.


DD - 10/12
11/3/12 - he asked for divorce
11/15/12 - beginning of R
April '13 - he says he is DONE no chance of further R

Posts: 18 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Alaska
Dreamboat
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Member # 10506
Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another good book is Journey from Abandonment to Healing.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17695 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
glaciergal
40777
Member # 40777
Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, Dreamboat. It is also encouraging to see that you are writing "from a better place." I hope to visit there someday.


DD - 10/12
11/3/12 - he asked for divorce
11/15/12 - beginning of R
April '13 - he says he is DONE no chance of further R

Posts: 18 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Alaska
Topic Posts: 5

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