Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.
There are women here who have done that. I dont know how they find the strength to do it. But they do. I am sure someone will be along with their story shortly.
Regarding the opposite. BH who find one of *their* children are the product of a union with an OM. I can not recall hearing of that here at all.
Hope in reality is the worst of all evils because it prolongs the torments of man.