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Needadrink posted 9/26/2013 17:55 PM

Latest update we have been trying to R for 4 Months since DDay but I knew That there was more, my gut just told me. I threatened him with a polygraph and he says that on top of his 18 yr A which i was slowly coming to terms with he also went with a prostitute in China and he has had 4 sexual massages masturbation. I have asked him constantly about other incidents and he has denied anything else, says he is telling me because he really wants it to work with me. I feel sick, I don't know this person. this has all come to me via messaging by the way as he is working overseas.He says that he knows now that I probably won't stay with him! I think he might be right but I just don't know what to do, I am shaking and vomiting so much.I can't function

Gr8Lady posted 9/26/2013 18:14 PM

So sorry about the new revelation. Hugs to you.
Personally I feel truth is essential, no matter how much it hurts.
Stay strong, you can do it

conflicted88 posted 9/26/2013 18:59 PM

I used to work in China for 2 years (Shanghai to be exact) and I've seen what goes around there with my own eyes. I used to call Shanghai "Sin City" with good reason. China is a place where your faith, conviction, core believes are put to the ultimate test and I have seen many fail miserably to stand firm and be faithful.

I'll give you a real life story of a male friend who came to visit me while I was there. Upon arrival, from the airport he took the subway then bus to get my place. Purely just by asking around for directions, and holding a map, he had no less than 3 girls approach him and by the time he reached my place he had 3 phone numbers !!!!! That's how scary that place is.