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 Kimba22 (original poster new member #40476) posted at 12:47 AM on Friday, September 27th, 2013

Just wondering if any of you keep a journal and find it helpful to write down your feelings, triggers etc...how your feeling good or bad about LIFE, THE A and more??

ME: 46
H: 49
A from 3/9/13 to 5/13/13
DD: 5/6/2013
Married: 11 years
Blended family w/5 Children

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LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 12:57 AM on Friday, September 27th, 2013

Hi Kimba, I do journal things on SI. I wrote something 24 hours after D-Day too via email, printed it and it sits in my room. It is so raw and painful to read. I would write myself notes in my Draft folder too and just keep adding to it.

Overall, I find writing things out on SI to other posters very helpful ie: triggers, bad days, good days. I also have a place on my BB when the mood strikes me and I need to write it out. It's a release for me.

I have also written my H 3 letters. I re-read them today. Wow. The first one I really blasted him! I was more sad in #2 written one month later and by #3 written 3 months after D-day I was questioning how much he was getting from IC.

So, while I don't have one journal for all my thoughts, I have written a lot since D-Day.

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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topperoff22 ( member #40762) posted at 2:24 AM on Friday, September 27th, 2013

I journal almost all of it. the good, the bad, the ugly..ooooh the ugly. The counselor I see wants me to journal as much as I can before I slam WH with all my anger. SOmetimes it works...other times it doesn't. *sigh* I sketch in it. I write things in it.....whatever I feel like to get it all out.

BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

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SpiderGrl ( member #40157) posted at 4:12 AM on Friday, September 27th, 2013

I have recently started and it shocked me how much it helps.

Me 36- BW
Him 37- WH 6 month EA pushing PA.
DDAY- 7/2/13
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. -Gandhi
Pls forgive weird sentences and spelling mistakes, I post from my phone and autocorrect hates me.

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Kelany ( member #34755) posted at 5:13 AM on Friday, September 27th, 2013

Yes. I have a handwritten one and then my blog is my journal as well. It has helped tremendously. My therapist recommended it. I was resistant at first, now its one if my best coping methods.

BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking

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