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Topic: FF's Fall Update Year 5

FaithFool
♀ 20150
Member # 20150

Posted: 7:25 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013

It has been a decadent summer. Much sangria consumed, but also many miles ridden, so I'm thinking that cancels out a few of the pounds I've put back on since the oral surgery in April.

I'm using up my last week of vacation, still in staycation mode. Some of the cash I didn't spend on renting a car and stuff is going towards stimulating the local economy.

The weather is still patio-worthy, and the last three days I've been on two of the best in town, with appies and pomegranate prosecco and white grape Cosmos and other pink drinks.

Had a wonderful garlicky evening with friends at a great tapas bar.

Been goofing off bigtime in the evenings with Netflix and more wine.

Handed in my cable box yesterday so now I can justify ordering the new season of Nashville on ITunes.

Got a ticket for John Cleese in mid October. I like to see at least one good comedian and one great rock show a year.

Supposed to start raining tomorrow, so I told myself that this week was patio party time since we don't know when it will come around again....

Back to the books.

Year 5 is turning out quite OK. I'm not dating and have no plans to. Just living life and trying to extract maximum enjoyment.

As my mum always used to say... "There'll be days when we're dead."

Some friends have been on the vacay of a lifetime, posting pics from Amsterdam, Paris, Barcelona, Granada, etc. that are inspiring me for the next trip across the pond. Maybe in a couple of years. It's nice to dream....

[This message edited by FaithFool at 7:44 PM, September 26th (Thursday)]

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 20632 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada

Williesmom
♀ 22870
Member # 22870

Posted: 8:00 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013

Great post. I love your lifestyle.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 9148 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA

phmh
♀ 34146
Member # 34146

Posted: 8:09 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013

:) You've had a great year! Can't wait for year 6 update!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

Posts: 4422 | Registered: Dec 2011

better4me
♀ 30341
Member # 30341

Posted: 8:21 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013

What a great update from someone with a great attitude.
Wish we could share some sangria!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:54
Divorced

Posts: 4109 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa

Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239

Posted: 9:00 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013

I know that someday we will share drinks and appies

I'm so glad life is good.

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

Posts: 25300 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona

fraeuken
♀ 30742
Member # 30742

Posted: 10:16 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013

Love, love, love Sangria and wish I could have 10./. of your attitude tonight. Going home now to snuggle with the kitten and to remember all the strong men and women on this site.

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1316 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California

persevere
♀ 31468
Member # 31468

Posted: 11:43 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013

Great post FF

Reminds us all that life is what you make it

Me: BW-46
Him: XWH-46

DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

Posts: 5280 | Registered: Mar 2011

Newlease
♀ 7767
Member # 7767

Posted: 8:36 AM, September 27th (Friday), 2013

Great update - sounds delightful!

Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

Posts: 8233 | Registered: Aug 2005

FaithFool
♀ 20150
Member # 20150

Posted: 11:27 AM, September 27th (Friday), 2013

The contentment factor relative to five years ago is pretty amazing.

When you're in the thick of it you never think you'll get there, but it just kind of creeps in over time.

I feel very lucky to have it now.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 11:28 AM, September 27th (Friday)]

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 20632 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada

gma56
♀ 19595
Member # 19595

Posted: 2:46 PM, September 27th (Friday), 2013

Yay you !!!
Peace is a great thing !

BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20489 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..

bbee
♀ 17840
Member # 17840

Posted: 9:17 AM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013

OMG, John Cleese! I can hear Prunella Scales's voice in my head--"Basil!"

This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1

Posts: 6680 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: SE US

FaithFool
♀ 20150
Member # 20150

Posted: 1:08 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013

bbee, he's camping out here for about three weeks. There are so many Brits here, we have shops with special Brit groceries so you can get your Marmite and marmalade.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 20632 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada

MyVoice
♀ 35695
Member # 35695

Posted: 3:45 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013

great post I can feel the calm and contentment radiate from my screen

Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 493 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia

FaithFool
♀ 20150
Member # 20150

Posted: 5:48 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013

Pouring rain today. Jazz on the radio, cuppa tea and history readings.

Very cozy.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 20632 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada

risingfromashes
♀ 3903
Member # 3903

Posted: 6:38 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013

Thank you for the update. I so admire your ability to seek out personal peace and relish it!

There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.
After litigation, lawyers and courtrooms, I went back to school and recieved my Masters in Conflict Resolution. Now a Mediator helping people avoid what I went through!

Posts: 2109 | Registered: Mar 2004

NaiveAgain
♀ 20849
Member # 20849

Posted: 9:57 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013

Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 16236 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio

wildbananas
♀ 10552
Member # 10552

Posted: 12:56 AM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013

This is completely awesome, FF. It sure made me smile!

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 16013 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl

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