You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
You have the power to shut down any and all questions, but you can't stop people from talking. You have to realize that.
For me, humor helped. I told anyone and everyone 'I didn't like his girlfriend'. They either laughed or didn't know what to say. Whatever works best for you.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011