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User Topic: Need some good advice...
Broken1Again
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok so I found a number that WS has been texting. When he fell asleep tonight I text the number from his phone and pretended I was him. I found a few things. Normally I would wake his ass up right away and kick him out. This time I haven't done that.

Right now I'm shaking. The girl sounds like a 5 year old and still thinks it was my WS texting her. I found out that 1) they have plans to meet tomorrow night at a certain place. She told me the place I know it well and it's close by. I find this kind of strange considering he has plans with me. I know she's not lying because I'm positive she thinks I was WS.

2) I logged into his bank account and found out he had a whack load of $ in his bank account. So I moved it into mine. Yes, yes I did. FTG.

Here's my dilemma though. I kind of want to catch him red handed with this girl at the place they are supposed to be meeting. In order for that to happen I have to put the $ back and possibly take the chance he will find out I text her.

So I'm struggling with 1) waking his ass up right now and telling him to get the f out; or 2) letting him wake up tomorrow and finding out I took all the $ and text this girl or 3) put the $ back; act like nothing happened and catch his ass red handed.

I'm sick of being played for a fool and it's about time I get some bitch boots on and do some ass kicking.

Please any advice I'm not thinking clearly and could use some level headed words of wisdom.

[This message edited by Broken1Again at 8:43 PM, September 26th (Thursday)]


BS: 40
WS: 42
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
In R.

Posts: 883 | Registered: May 2011
MammaMia
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will send you a PM


And once the storm is over, you wonít remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive.But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you wonít be the same person who walked in. Thatís what this stormís all about.Ē

Posts: 875 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Somewhere in the South
anewday78
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You've already caught him red-handed so I would go with option 2 and add leaving his bagged clothes on the front lawn and changing the locks while he's at work. Since he likes playing games so much, let him play connect the fucking dots.

[This message edited by anewday78 at 9:11 PM, September 26th (Thursday)]


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Needadrink
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi there you need to catch him red handed, I would put the money back but be ready to transfer it again as soon as you find out. is there any way that you can make his phone malfunction like dropping it in water or something.


BS 57
WH 58
M 28 yrs together 32
D Day 10th April 2013
20 Yrs of Infidelity with long term affair 18 yrs but only seen a couple of times a year. 3 Prostitutes, sexual Massages.Ongoing Porn. lapdances.

Posts: 88 | Registered: Aug 2013
jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

or 4) put half the money back, and expect that mr hardick head won't notice cuz he's driven. The blood will be elsewhere not feeding his brain.

Taking half the money will not reflect badly on you, even if his L tries - o yeah - get a Lawyer.

Tomorrow night? Ok, not much time to plan...I will tell you, in all the time I've been here, denouements are the favorite stories. They run for many pages and are popular - we live vicariously don't you know!

That all means figure out the best way to bust his ass.

Having a friend he doesn't know be there to record the dirty assignation, having the L send his pretty assistant to serve him...

No matter how you do it, I must say, those bitch boots look realy fine on you.


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Broken1Again
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh make the phone malfunction I could do that...That is pretty brilliant...if it lands in water though by my hands he will suspect. I need to do something else to make it malfunction...and not throw any suspicion on myself.


BS: 40
WS: 42
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
In R.

Posts: 883 | Registered: May 2011
Broken1Again
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He won't get a lawyer I'm not worried about that at all. Getting a lawyer would mean he would totally have to own up to every single bad deed he's ever done and he won't do that. So I have no fear about leaving him half. I want it all. And then some. He can go f himself. I left him $5 and watch him try and get that out of the bank when he's left me and the kids some weeks with $20. FTG.

I'm working hard on the phone malfunction. I just found out he has a new email account. Like f! So if the phone malfunctions he can still email her. But I would love to hear his line of questioning ..."so, did you happen to use my phone last night?" " Who Me? why?? "Ummm...crickets" ya just dying to see how he handles this.

[This message edited by Broken1Again at 9:32 PM, September 26th (Thursday)]


BS: 40
WS: 42
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
In R.

Posts: 883 | Registered: May 2011
Skan
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pull the sim chip, give it a little crunch with the pliers, replace it, and fake ignorance with it won't boot up tomorrow. Forward all texts you need to your phone before that and then wipe out the text/email memory.

Then do what you need to do. Transfer money (I'd leave about $100 in there so that if he bought gas, nothing bounced), confront, etc. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5072 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Broken1Again
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok I have decided I'm going to pull the "I don't know what happened" if he asks me about money. "The bank must have done something." I've turned on the "find me" on his iPhone and I am going to "find him" when the time is right...I just hope I'm strong enough to do it.


BS: 40
WS: 42
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
In R.

Posts: 883 | Registered: May 2011
hailstormer
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Default  Posted: 10:09 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He probably won't notice the bank withdrawal for a few days but do as SKAN said and maybe keep a little in there to cover some things.
The malfunction phone thing is a good idea
And keep the date with him for tomorrow nite and make sure he cannot leave early and even follow him for bathroom breaks and tell him you'll wait outside when your done so he doesn't have enough time to go and call her. I almost went into a mens bathroom once knowing he was talking to her did not have the courage then....but I do now I could do anything now wouldn't bother me a bit!
Proud of ya for being so strong in the early stages
Wish I culd have been


me(BS)-55
him(WS)-53
together 21 years
1st D-Day 4-19-10
2nd D-Day 5-3-12
married 19 years
2 kids 13-twins
Unfortunately...divorcing

Posts: 122 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Florida
Needadrink
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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, September 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can't wait to hear what you do just be brave and know that you have us cheering you. Glad you liked the phone idea.


BS 57
WH 58
M 28 yrs together 32
D Day 10th April 2013
20 Yrs of Infidelity with long term affair 18 yrs but only seen a couple of times a year. 3 Prostitutes, sexual Massages.Ongoing Porn. lapdances.

Posts: 88 | Registered: Aug 2013
Broken1Again
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well it was a bit anti climatic I guess. Maybe I'm just tired of this crap. He held me last night and instead of thinking he wanted to be close all I kept thinking was he was holding me so I wouldn't make a break for his phone. I mean how stupid does he think I am!!!???? I can easily check the phone records whenever I want does he think I can't find out???

Anyways, it was tough letting him hold me and pretend like nothing was going on. This morning he got up for work and came to say goodbye "I love you" he said. Crickets from me. He said it again . I said I heard you then I couldn't resist and I said "say hi to Vaughn for me" that's what he has the persons name in his phone as. He said "huh?" I didn't say anything and he left. A minute later he texts "I love you. "
Crickets from me. A few minutes after that "I really do.."

Then about half hour later he texts "where's the money??? You need to put $2500 into this account to cover those cheques I don't care what you do with the rest." Ain't loving me now now are you???? I played dumb and I think I had him confused for a bit and unsure.

I keep asking him "how stupid do you think I am? How proud you must feel to think your wife is a dumb ass". Anyways I'm so tired of this whole mess. I keep wondering doesn't he ever get tired of it???

He doesn't know that I spoke to the chick and pretended to be him or at least I don't think he does. But who cares. I really don't give a f. I'm going to try and show up where he is supposed to be with her tonight just so he can see the look on my face that I'm so done with this bullish!t.

The kids have scheduled things though so I'm not going to forgo them though to chase his sorry ass around. I am actually to a point where I feel sorry for these girls/women because most of the more recent ones he's lied to that he's not married anymore and that I'm crazy. And then he dumps them without regard for their feelings. He's just an ass to everyone but himself. Well actually he's even an ass to himself. I think he's hell bent on being a failure in everything in life.


BS: 40
WS: 42
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
In R.

Posts: 883 | Registered: May 2011
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