I've been dating SO for about 11 months now. Met him a bit less than two years ago in a divorce and separation divorce group and we were friends before dating. Similar divorce stories, so we bonded quickly and have a lot in common and have great conversations and so much fun together. He's lightyears beyond my ex! Things are going GREAT.
He has joint custody of his kids (which I see as a plus, since he's a very involved dad...) but it means we tend to see each other week on, week off. He does know my kids now and they really like him, that's gone quite well. His kids are teenagers, mine are younger. The issue is that when he brought up eventually meeting me, to his kids, the response (especially the youngest boy) was, "glad you are happy dad and found someone, but we're not into meeting her...it's too weird at this point." That was a few months ago.
I TOTALLY respect that. And I do NOT want to be pushy with teenagers!! But I've also noticed that his kids tend to get whatever they ask for from him (use of his car whenever, new ski gear constantly, clothes from spendy stores, etc.) They are very close to him, for being in their teens...they constantly text him and ask to do things together, they seem to geniunely want to be with him a lot. They seem like good kids. I'm just not sure he ever says anything but "yes" to them!
So I wonder if this could go on forever, and our relationship will always be a "one-week feast or famine" because they would rather not deal with someone else in his life and he won't argue that. I have no interest in living together or anything like that right now, but it's tough to go a whole week at a time with maybe only one quick meet up for coffee...especially as the relationship progresses...
Not sure how to handle this? Do I need to just chill out and let it be? Should I be concerned? Sometimes after what happened with my ex I feel like I am such a newbie in the art of forming a healthy relationship!
[This message edited by NWfleur at 11:59 PM, September 26th (Thursday)]