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soconfusednow posted 9/27/2013 06:25 AM

When I first posted here The Healing Library was recommended I barely glanced at it, but spent a lot of time in the forums. Now that I'm starting to look there more I'm thinking I wasted some time on my road to recovery.

When it comes to homework type stuff I get distracted, try to do to many things at once, get frustrated or lazy, all of which is time consuming & unproductive. Any suggestions to keep/start me in the right direction would be helpful.

MovingUpward posted 9/27/2013 08:45 AM

Maybe you want to use the members here to hold you accountable for implementing the things that you are learning. Let them support you and encourage you.

So think about where things are and what you want to accomplish next (not the grand scheme but the next small step). Let us know what it is so that we can cheer you on.

Lucky posted 9/27/2013 13:08 PM

Try taking things one step at a time, one day at a time, one hour at a time.... It's a long road with a lot of ups and downs and many struggles.

Dare2Trust posted 9/27/2013 17:39 PM

soconfusednow,

One thing that's very helpful:

If you can take the time to write "your story" on your profile page. Then posters can refer to your Profile page/story....and have a better understanding of your situation to help you with suggestions/advice, etc....

Often, posters don't have time to read all your posts before replying.

soconfusednow posted 10/3/2013 22:22 PM

Iíve decided whenever I come to the site I need to look at least 1 article, link or book from the Healing Library. Iím not sure starting at the top & working down or choosing from the title would be more beneficial.

Today I will read Quick Start Guidelines - by Poodlepapa.

sisoon posted 10/3/2013 22:41 PM

When it comes to homework type stuff I get distracted, try to do to many things at once, get frustrated or lazy, all of which is time consuming & unproductive.

OK...that could be your response to the A, but it could also be ADD/ADHD. My suggestion is to see a doc, preferably a psychiatrist with a specialty in AD(H)D, for an eval.

TheAmazingWondertwin posted 10/4/2013 05:05 AM

In reference to the ADD/ADHD. I specialize in this field for children but have worked with adults as well. Often, adults take responsibility for their inability to manage time and stay focused. I do recommend talking with someone about that- there are some very simple tips and strategies that may help you focus and say on track- as well as give you the peace of mind that some if this is out of your control. Don't bet yourself up for the way your mind and body work. Learn how to work with those strengths and weaknesses to get you where you want to go.
I wish you strength and comfort.

soconfusednow posted 10/6/2013 04:27 AM

Just read Signs of Cheating in the Healing Library. If my WH read that he might think I was cheating(I am not), about 20 of those things applied to me.

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