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User Topic: Small rant........mow and xwh are everywhere right now! Ugh!
She11ybeanz
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Frustrated  Posted: 8:48 AM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay...so most of you know I'm a competitive runner. Well, MOW and XWH got into running "literally" the month after my divorce was final....TOGETHER....and started showing up at all the races I did.....and still do. I just ran in the same race as them 2 weeks ago... (I smoked them...but that's beside the point... ).

Well, my XWH is a fireman and she is a nurse and they started up their own Breast Cancer Awareness 5k together..... and it is probably the MOST advertised 5k on the freakin planet! I mean seriously! There are posters, commercials, billboards, ads, hearsay, EVERYWHERE! I can't escape it! You would think it was a world Olympic marathon event or something! I've run A LOT of races.... and have never seen a race more advertised. They probably spend more promoting it than they actually raise for breast cancer....sadly.

I'm just sick of seeing it or hearing about it....and this is the 3rd year it has been put on...so it isn't going anywhere..... and the stupid race is tomorrow. I KNOW its for a good cause and believe you me.....I run the Susan G. Komen race for a cure 5k every year just about! I just REFUSE to run their race. Its the principal of the thing for me plus I would have to see every jackass that turned their back on me that were supposed family and friends when I was married to the balding dickwad! Maybe someday I will get the courage to do it.....but it will be a while.

Instead, I am running the Genworth Virginia 10-miler on the same morning in a different city! (about an hour away!) I've wanted to run this race now for a couple of years...but the 1st time, I got an IT band injury a couple of days before the race and the 2nd time, my daughter was 6 weeks old and I was out of shape running wise! So, this is my year....and its the 40th anniversary too!

I wish that I could let go of the hate and discontent that I have for MOW and XWH. But, its really been getting to me lately... and I noticed in some of the HUGE BLOWUP pics of her and him for this race a GINORMOUS diamond ring on her left hand. Kill me please.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
fourever
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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just know, that this is what helps "relieve" the guilt of their actions. It's not for Breast Cancer they do this, it's to help justify the guilt they feel for being less than saintly people.


In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.

Always, tell the other BS! Always!

"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!


Posts: 906 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Northeast
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just know, that this is what helps "relieve" the guilt of their actions. It's not for Breast Cancer they do this, it's to help justify the guilt they feel for being less than saintly people.

I agree... why put on such a big SHOW if it was truly a charitable selfless act? They wouldn't spend so much on all the pretty medals, t-shirts, advertisements, commercials, etc.... I know all of that isn't free and donated! Even though they try to promote it as such!

Sometimes I think people try SO hard to make a big production out of making themselves look so great to other people....when at the end of the day, they are still the same Jackass driving the Hummer. Just sayin.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:53 AM, September 27th (Friday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
ninebark
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank Goodness my ExH does not and will never run. That would be somewhat irritating to have to see him all the time.

I just ran in the same race as them 2 weeks ago... (I smoked them...but that's beside the point... ).

I love that! I would have to smoke them on principal too...then again at my last race I damned near killed myself because I refused to be passed by a 7 year old..(okay he did pass me in the end but he was having a blast when he realized what I was doing..made his race).

However we like to go to Hal-Con every year, kinda like comicon. Suddenly ExH has developed an interest in it, if I have to run into him there I may have to smack him with something.


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

However we like to go to Hal-Con every year, kinda like comicon. Suddenly ExH has developed an interest in it, if I have to run into him there I may have to smack him with something.

Yeah....my bestie has a friend running their race tomorrow. She said she would kick them in the shin if she saw one of them!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Random thoughts
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Turn it around, the only reason why they started running was to stick it to you.

Now think about it what kind of personal dysfunctional personality must you have to turn around and stalk your ex wife, and for her, stalk your now exmarried man's now ex wife.

To prance around knowing you have loose morals (both of them) and not even caring that others look at them in secret as creepy because if I knew what went down and see them both in stalker mode I would just wonder to myself what the fvck is wrong with them.

As for your former friends now you know what people hang out with cheaters and don't hold people up to a higher standard.

I'm sure you want to hang out with honest good people and not those who accept crazy stalkers like your ex and his mow.

Sorry but I just find your ex and his mow freaking weird.


Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
FWW

Posts: 1621 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry but I just find your ex and his mow freaking weird

They are weird. And, attention whores... hell...just strike the 1st word!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Most breast cancer charities are scams. Anyone can slap a pink ribbon on something, say it's for breast cancer, and sell it to the masses claiming it's for charity. Nobody regulates this crap. Basically if you are not giving to the big organizations you are probably lining someone's pockets.

Since you know this 5k is run by dishonest people, AND it spends a ton of money on advertising, then you have a pretty good reason to doubt where the money is REALLY going.

Also, FWIW these assholes are trying harder than Brangelina to show off what good people they are. They're covering up more than just affair stink, IMO.


Keep calm and carry on.

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish that I could let go of the hate and discontent that I have for MOW and XWH. But, its really been getting to me lately... and I noticed in some of the HUGE BLOWUP pics of her and him for this race a GINORMOUS diamond ring on her left hand. Kill me please.

I find that the "letting go" of the hate, discontent, resentment, anger and pain is truly an ongoing process. It ebbs and flows. Just because I get back into it, doesn't mean I haven't *really* let go. I'm trying to ride the waves when the bad feelings come up about the way my marriage ended, and trying not to analyze the shit out of why I'm not "over it". It is. I am healing even when I don't feel "healed". I think you are healing well Ms. Beanz! Just roll with the tide.

And run your other race so freaking well!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I find that the "letting go" of the hate, discontent, resentment, anger and pain is truly an ongoing process. It ebbs and flows. Just because I get back into it, doesn't mean I haven't *really* let go. I'm trying to ride the waves when the bad feelings come up about the way my marriage ended, and trying not to analyze the shit out of why I'm not "over it". It is. I am healing even when I don't feel "healed". I think you are healing well Ms. Beanz! Just roll with the tide.
And run your other race so freaking well!

Thank you. I'm trying REALLY hard to move on and heal. Its hard and I get frustrated with myself when I get angry towards them in my head again. When I see them so "supposedly" happy in all of their pics together. I want to smack that smile off of their fake faces..... but I just let it go.

I did run my race, dispite recovering from bronchitis... probably NOT my smartest move ever.... and about 2 miles into the 10 mile race....I realized it was going to be a struggle to get through it. BUT.... the teammate I was running with pulled ahead of me.... and I let him go. I knew I couldn't keep up with him without this elephant sitting on my chest crushing my lungs to oblivion and me ending up hacking and coughing on the side of the road from my dumb pride halfway through the race. In normal circumstances, I could have kept up with him but I let him have his glory moment. He was having a good race and he deserved it! I told myself...survive.... just finish... and don't walk. So that's what I did. My PR in a 10-miler is ironicially from this year at 1 hour 34 minutes... and it was much flatter than this race....and seemed easier. This race was awful. It was incredibly hilly.... and I don't mean... "just a hill" I mean... seemingly mini mountains about a half mile to a mile long in some places.... just horrible. If I had known the course beforehand...I don't know if I would have been brave enough to do it while still sick.

The last mile and a half is all uphill. I thought how grateful I would be just to finish without walking and how awesome it would be just to make it before an hour and 40 minutes. I suffered the whole way..... I won't lie. This race ranks in my top 5 hardest (and I've run 2 marathons and 5 half marathons) I finished only 3 minutes slower than my all out flatter 10-mile race in February at an hour and 37 minutes....

I was very proud of myself for presevering.... and not giving up. Even though I didn't catch my teammate... in the grand scheme of things...he was only 3 minutes ahead of me. I will take it. I doubt that my XWH or MOW could have done that race faster than me....in perfect health.

It was a beast. And, I conquered it. Take that wannabes......

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:38 PM, September 29th (Sunday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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