Background: I was the betrayed, got a DV tape recorder, got info from her conversations in car with OM, once after we tried R and she always talked with sister on phone. Anyway, I had edited those conversations to the vital few and saved them on CD. She never knew about my DV taping until she planned to get me out of house and grabbed stuff of hers and found my backups.
She gets a restraining order (RO) on me in affidavit she admits affair and very weak reasons she was afraid of me and also stated I was recording her in her car. Judge for RO asks me about recording, I plead the 5th. So 9/11 I get thrown out, kept away for 4 months from DD, 5 at the time plus I was a stay at home dad. D was July 2012, her attorney states she will let RO expired in Sept 2012, 1 year after issued. She shows up, I did not, my mistake put in calendar the following day, so RO automatically extended for another year.
Now Sept 2013 I attend re-hearing to have RO vacated, no more reason for it, we’d D and I did not violate RO. In front of Judge she, let me make it clear was a female judge, reads affidavit states I remember this, asks ex why she wants the RO extended. She is stilled scared and I had, out of frustration on a few child support checks put letters on check (IHUFC – probably can figure this one out another was IKWURA – I Know Who You Really Are). Judge asks what these letters mean and I say no meaning, just random letters so I can track. I know, I know I should not have put that on the checks, stupid mistake.
Anyway, judge then asks me something that blew me away…, paraphrasing, I know you’re within your right pleading the 5th but we are in a civil court.., do you want to explain about those recordings… I stated I did not have legal representation and will keep my right to not further say anything.
I spoke with my D attorney and another and they never heard a judge try to goad someone into breaking their 5th right. Unbelievable!!!
RO got extended for another year.
[This message edited by redshift at 2:14 PM, September 27th (Friday)]