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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So DD would like to participate in a sporting event her team is attending on her dads weekend....it's a chunk of time (half a day) and some fees.....about $30.00

I have asked him to pay for the fees as it is his weekend (I pay all extra-curricular and club fees).....his reply was

What does my weekend have to do with paying for the meets?

So I can think of lots of smart ass comments to reply with....but that is not going to get me anywhere....so.....How would you respond....or not??

Thanks!!!! 15


Posts: 108 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: WI
phmh
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What does your divorce decree state about extra-curricular activities and payment? Is CS supposed to cover them all, or are they split in some fashion?

If he were a stand-up guy, of course he would pay. But if he were that guy, he never would have cheated, you'd still be married, and not in this situation.

You have to remember who you're dealing with!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


Posts: 3537 | Registered: Dec 2011
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a shithead. He can't put DD ahead of his petty games against you? Don't sink to his level. If you can afford to, pay the $30 so she can attend. Make sure DD knows you've taken care of it. He'll still have to deal with the chunk of time needed.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 2089 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
thenon-goddess
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How about...

"You're right, it being on your weekend shouldn't really be the deciding factor - sorry. I pay _______ (list what you pay here), so I really was just hoping you could help out by covering this one. If not, I'll gladly cover it, as I want to be sure that DD has this opportunity."


Status: divorcing - I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!

Posts: 1255 | Registered: Feb 2011
nomistakeaboutit
♂ 36857
Member # 36857
Default  Posted: 6:16 AM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...^^^^^ This.


Me: BH 58.........Her: WW 45
DD: 8..........DS: 5
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
...................................
"It's like a nightmare within a nightmare, which in and of itself is a nightmare!"

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