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suckstobeme posted 9/27/2013 20:11 PM

To actually try to date.

I find myself wondering what it would be like to meet a nice man. A man who is kind, caring, considerate, and good to his family and friends. A man who wants to be with me and enhance the nice life that i have already, and a man who wants to make nice memories, whether that involves something small like a tradition of watching a favorite show every week or something bigger like vacations.

I honestly don't think I know what that feels like. I certainly don't know what it feels like to be with a man who has actually matured and moved beyond a grad school party mentality.

I have realized that my best memories of the ex douche are of when we didn't have kids and were in some sort of party situation. None of my good memories with him involved anything truly intimate or anything having to do with our families and children. That's a very sad realization, but one that makes me sort of excited to try to meet someone who grew up and matches my morals, values and judgement now as a professional and a parent.

I hope he comes along one day.

tryingagain74 posted 9/27/2013 21:52 PM

That's great. I hope to be there myself at some point. I just can't picture it right now.

Are you going to try OLD, or are you just going to see what the universe brings your way?

InnerLight posted 9/28/2013 12:50 PM

A man who is kind, caring, considerate, and good to his family and friends. A man who wants to be with me and enhance the nice life that i have already, and a man who wants to make nice memories, whether that involves something small like a tradition of watching a favorite show every week or something bigger like vacations.

This is totally possible for you. I was able to meet someone like this through OLD. We've been together for over 3 years now. He has his limits and flaws, but he does do everything you described on your list and our relationship is a nurturing part of my life.

It sounds like you are open to the possibility and taking time to think about what qualities are important to you. Those are important steps. Good luck in your search.

Williesmom posted 9/29/2013 22:18 PM

I've met several really nice men on OLD. I'm still friends with many of them - we periodically touch bases, just to keep in touch.

One, in particular contacted me - he was 10 years younger than me. I thought "what can we possibly have in common?". Turns out that he is one of my closest friends now - truly a great guy, even though it isn't romantic. So, so keep an open mind.

I've also met some real jerks. Don't let them get to you - just enjoy the nice ones.

sparkysable posted 9/30/2013 14:17 PM

And he would be one lucky guy!

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