Should I even send this.
Anewday78 is correct:
Never let the enemy know the angle at which you may strike.
I very much hope that the results of the DNA test mean NC forever for you and your H.
Reconciling. A stronger marriage now.
Psalm 37. It rocks my world. So does 140. Big guy upstairs has got it all figured out.
Ask a question on here about contacting HR at her work, I think some people DO recommend it and they can tell you what they did. No heads up to her - she's the enemy!
I would def go for the a of a lawsuit. Go see an atty now for a free consult -- do not even tell your H in case he goes back to her one day-sorry to say that, but it would be a great surprise attack - one that would possibly catapult him back into reality if he strayed again. We are so used to telling our spouses everything, but for now you have to be shrewd.
[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 9:45 AM, September 29th (Sunday)]
me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
I think that other than NC letters, I would not send any tangible contact. Texts, calls with ID, emails, written letters etc can be used against you. My only contact, in which I let her have it, came face to face. With only my H as witness, it is her word against mine as to what was said. Sociopath OW does not need anything from me to obsess over or use against me. Really think about how she would use any contact. You might intend it to be informative, questioning, supportive of your M, or condemning. Possibly, maybe probaly, she will not perceive it as you intend and she will use it, even quietly, to further her delusion of relationship with your H and her "win" against you.
I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.