SS - So sorry you find yourself here! Seems that there is alot of SA these days. First, please read the first page of the thread for spouses of SAs at
Second, please go to www.sexhelp.com and look for a CSAT in your area.
Third, while RN is a good resource in addition to a CSAT and SA meetings, it is NOT a replacement. If your SAWH is interested in recovery, I personally think that going to a treatment center FIRST is the way to go. Then to start working with a CSAT and attending meetings. If you cannot afford for him to go to rehab, then find a CSAT immediately!
Lastly, but most importantly, find a support system for YOU. COSA or SAnon and your own CSAT or trauma specialist that deals with the spouses of SAs. You are right, the relapse rate is high! My SAWH has not relapsed for sex addiction, he has had slips however. I am in a much better place to handle my life, no matter what choices my SAWH has made.