Member # 27886
| Posted: 11:06 AM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013|
I was married for 22 years to my ex. He is a very mechanical and technical type person. He always planned well financially and also was very handy. He could talk to just about anyone. I guess I think I kind of lost what was good about me in the marriage, because I thought I just never measured up to his ability. Now that he has been gone for three years and we are now divorced, I see so many of my good qualities that were there but were never really acknowledged by him, or his family because they were so busy acknowledging his. I have strength, courage, loyalty, perseverance, integrity, and resilience to name some. I don't know why I didn't think of these when we were together. It is like my self-esteem is higher now than when we were together, even though I still miss him, his love and the marital relationship very deeply. Not sure if anyone else has thought about this. It is like I am a more confident in myself now, but also more lonely and sad than I was when we were married.
Posts: 96 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: Pennsylvania
Member # 14003
| Posted: 10:53 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013|
I think I was spending so much time putting out fires where my exwh was concerned that I just didn't have time to focus on myself in any way.
A wise woman once said "fuck this shit" and she lived happily ever after.
If you want them to quit stabbing you in the back, then you need to quit handing them the knife.
Posts: 17037 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston