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topperoff22 posted 9/29/2013 16:39 PM

It's been two months since I learned my husband slept with his ex girlfriend and I am doing OK somedays and then I have major today. I can't function. I'm so tired. I don't sleep. I have nightmares. I can't talk to WH because all he does is cry and tell me he's sorry, but won't tell me why or how he could do this to me. I couldn't have been that horrible of a wife. I really just don't want to keep waking up to this nightmare.

cluless posted 9/29/2013 17:07 PM


That's what my WH did as well, he went to an ex-girlfriend. The one that I've always "wondered" if he was over. Apparently it wasn't. It is now, but the damage that has been done is indescribable. Getting all the truth from him was one of the most painful if not the most painful thing I've had to do, but it is necessary. If he's not willing to spill it or you get TT, you will NEVER begin to heal.


Skan posted 9/29/2013 17:09 PM

(((hugs))) How and why. The two questions that we want and need to have answers to the most, and the two that seem to have the most incompletely and unsatisfactory answers around.

The most common (I can't say best) how & why is because they were criminally selfish. Because they thought only of themselves and what they wanted. Because they so utterly lacked something inside of themselves, there was such a gaping hole in their souls, that they took the cheap way out and hauled in construction debris to fill in the hole. They could have gone for the good quality, shit-free filler of talking to their WS, talking to an IC, asking for help, etc, but they thought they would do the job on the cheap and quick. So they snuck off to a construction site and filled up that gaping hole with filler that had nails, sewage, and bits and pieces of other shit mixed in, and then wondered why that filler didn't hold, didn't nurture good soil to grow healthy plants, only weeds.

I'm so sorry.

topperoff22 posted 9/29/2013 18:44 PM

He used to say to me that in order for any man to sleep with her they would have to strap a board to their ass so they wouldn't fall in. That's how big of a slut she is and was. All I want to know is if he strapped the board on. Asshole.

kickboxer posted 9/29/2013 21:16 PM

My WH carried on a 6 month EA with an ex-girlfriend.

We live in different time zones, and I haven't found anything to suggest they actually met in person.

But he told her he loved her.
He sent her naked pictures.
He enjoyed the naked pictures she sent to him.
He reminisced about old times, and allowed her to find superiority since, technically, she has known him longer.
He dug through his memory box and went through HUNDREDS of negatives to find the few he had of her.
Then he found a piece of equipment so he could upload them to his computer. He did this less than 1 month before I discovered what was going on...and I read the text exchange telling her that he couldn't stop thinking about her.

The pain is horrible.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with the aftermath of his disastrous choices.

I hope you find peace.

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