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confused52204 posted 9/29/2013 21:00 PM

What do u do if u know they r lying again? I know for sure 100%, he won't budge! Wtf!

RidingHealingRd posted 9/30/2013 01:14 AM

Can you show him proof?

I would tell him to leave, pack his stuff and get out. Let him know he can return when he decides to be 100% honest, accountable, remorseful, and committed to the M.

Prove to him that you are not willing to accept any additional deceit in your M, you have had enough.

confused52204 posted 9/30/2013 07:17 AM

Yes I have the proof. But really it is nothing new. It was a charge to friend finder. I knew he was on craigslist. So really it is nothing different. I just can't stop digging from the time he did everything which was feb 2010 to feb 2012. Which is most of our relationship. Digging makes it worse but I can't stop. Then to top of off his lies about it. Said he never made that charge!

sisoon posted 9/30/2013 07:29 AM

I read you to be saying that you can't stop acting in ways that hurt you, and you can't come to grips with (make a decision WRT?) his lying. It sounds like you're tying yourself into knots.

Have you considered IC?

missyb32641 posted 9/30/2013 09:16 AM

Is this a new account? If it an old acct it may be an automatic renewal charge. It is possible he forgot. I hope this is the case.

confused52204 posted 9/30/2013 10:17 AM

Regardless of new or old. I asked him a while back if he ever joined this specific site...he said no never!

Reality posted 9/30/2013 10:23 AM

Which is a bold faced lie, per your proof.

There's really no way to make him stop lying, confused. He has to choose that. You can decide if you want to interact with someone who chooses to lie to you. Yes, the old "you can't change other people - only yourself" mantra.

But it's true. Okay, he's lying to you. You can't change that. You can only change what opportunity he has to lie to you. That's not a right he has - that's access you give.

Do you want to give that to him?

confused52204 posted 9/30/2013 10:42 AM

I just don't know what to believe any more. He sounds so convincing. Says who knows that was 2 years ago. I'm thinking hell I would remember if I signed up for a friend finder service I had to pay for!

confused615 posted 9/30/2013 10:44 AM

"Who knows?"

HE knows.

HE is lying.

HE has been lying to you since nearly the beginning of the relationship.

Was his account on AFF set up to look for men...or women?

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