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User Topic: no memories? really?
♀ 40753
Member # 40753
Frustrated  Posted: 10:23 PM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I still have some peices of the A puzzle that are missing and now WH is telling me that he doesnt remember? that alot of memories are blank?!?! I call bullshit, i dont know how much longer I can take this before I tell him to just go on and leave me be. I still dont have details of how it all came to be that first day and he thinks that me asking isnt going to help but piss me off even more! no sir! YOU not answering my questions is whats pissing me off the most!!! I wanna know who suggested they meet up for sex that first time!!!

Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

Posts: 206 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
♀ 40488
Member # 40488
Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh this is my biggest complaint with my H. I have so many pieces missing and when I ask he tells me he can't remember or that it was so long ago. Well I am posting but I ding have anything that can help but I definitely can relate.
Or that it wasn't important to remember. But it was important enough to cheat on me is what I tell him and I deserve the truth..
Crickets. Nothing nada!!!
Ugh it gets me furious that I hate him and really can't stand him. And I ask him to leave because it's sickening. He says he just can't remember the details. He says he can't remember the first time he had sex. I was like really .. You can't remember you having sex with someone other than your wife, first time in 19 yrs. really. I call bullshit. And it was not that great... I too want to curl up in a corner and die!!
Our MC said that men remember things differently. They don't necessarily have all the details like we would. But not sure I really believe her..

Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

Posts: 515 | Registered: Aug 2013
♀ 40358
Member # 40358
Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There was a post about this recently In general and In reconciliation they were great!

Bs: me 32 WH: 36
Dday: July 2012
LTA: 4years (ea, pa)
Dd-4. Ds-2
My life is shattered unsure about R

Posts: 142 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: canada
♀ 40674
Member # 40674
Default  Posted: 1:33 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My fWH can't remember when their first time was. Sometime in January. FFS
He broke our vows and shattered my heart and my life and my family and he can't remember.
He doesn't want to either as he's now repulsed by it all. Fog has lifted
I've all the other info I need but if I don't get this date will the whole of January be my trigger for ever ?

Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."

Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
Topic Posts: 4

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