me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”
I've never thought of it in connection with wayward processes before. I do know that I can use shopping and acquiring as a means to feel better about things. I always figured as long as I also save and pay my bills, it's all good. But there probably are more valuable things I could do with my time and money.
[This message edited by heartbroken0903 at 9:40 AM, September 30th (Monday)]
Married 2.5 years
Do you remember a post that UO did quite awhile back about our wayward thought processes applying to way more than just infidelity?
Rachelc - you have been at this stuff long enough where IMO you need to work on stepping back from your A and look more closely at how YOU operate. This journey is about a healthy you, not about your A. IMO for a WS A's are just the symptom...That was pretty hard to accept at a BS, but I think that is the heart of the matter....
look more closely at how YOU operate
This, I started getting healthy the minute I told HL I was putting fixing me on the front burner because until that happened nothing else was going to work.
look more closely at how YOU operate.
well, I think that's what I'm doing, from my post.. looking at other ways I get my highs, and realizing that some of those things are screwed up..
As a kid, I used to suffer from frequent panic attacks. I had a hard time dealing with stress. I still do. I can't seem to face it head on.
As a result, I coped over the years by drinking, going to way too many concerts, cheating, immersing myself in sports, spending too much money.
I could go on and on.
Thanks for reminding me to keep myself in check and face my problems, handle stress in a better way, and be mindful of how this behavior got me in trouble in the first place.
looking at other ways I get my highs, and realizing that some of those things are screwed up.