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User Topic: I donated asshole's winter clothes
FieldsOfLavender
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cheating, irrational, delusional f*cker moved out in summer. After he told me that OWhore was going to have a baby after telling our child first, I bagged his winter clothes that he left (mostly sweaters) and drove several bags of his clothes to the local donation store. Now he's looking for those clothes.

Gee, I thought he didn't want them since he left them behind. He thinks I've gone ballistic. After finding out about the deliberate pregnancy with his whore, I was blinded by rage. Now I see just fine.


Posts: 199 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
Take2
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it bad that this made me smile?


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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sunsetslost
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DOH!  Posted: 9:22 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been throwing away plates and glasses instead of washing them. Most were wedding gifts. Not smashing as my therapist suggested, just throwing them away with the rest of the trash. She commented about the dwindling cabinet contents. I did not respond.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 780 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
FieldsOfLavender
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it bad that this made me smile?

Thank you. I'm glad it made you smile.

I told stbx-asshole that I'm doing him a favor. He wants to start a new life with whore, he should get a new wardrobe. I directed him to the 2nd hand store where I dropped off his stuff and said that he'd better hurry before the good stuff is gone.

I also told him that he should get his whore to get him a new wardrobe.


Posts: 199 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
cantlivewithouth
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did the same thing to the crap my XH left behind. When I moved out of the house almost 2 years after he left and over a year after the divorce was final he wanted all his stuff back. So sorry butthead, I don't know what happened to it. You must have taken it with you.

Had a great tax write-off though.


Married a truly wonderful and loving man Sept. 19, 2010. Not only survived, but thrived.

My new mantra: Argue Your Limitations.‎


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Snapdragon
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess he shouldn't have left his stuff behind. You are not his personal storage space.


Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink


Posts: 3090 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Midwest
FieldsOfLavender
♀ 39154
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It surprises me how upset asshole sounds when texting me. For some reason, I thought he wouldn't care ... like he hasn't care much about anything the past few years.

Some stuff I kept, because they are nicer. I don't know what to do with it, but didn't want to drop it off at the donation place. However, I did force myself to donate a nice pair of shoes I got for him. I heard an old wives tale not to buy shoes for your significant other. Ladies, don't buy your significant other shoes. Because that's what they will be wearing when they leave you.


Posts: 199 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
FieldsOfLavender
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Snapdragon, the lyrics of the song by Pink that you have in your footer, made me cry when I first heard it, driving in the car. Anybody looking at me would have seen the tears streaming down my cheeks.

Posts: 199 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
Cookie7088
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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He thinks I've gone ballistic.

No you did a very reasonable thing, and might I had a very good deed!

Ballistic is putting them out on the lawn..grabbing a gas can and a match....now, that's ballistic!


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flygirl123
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, September 30th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What he didn't take...I burned.

Or donated to a charity.

Or tossed in the trash.

Or used to bed down our chickens.

He asked for all of what he left two years after he walked out. All I could say was "oops! Better luck next time!"

By the way...Air Force Uniforms don't actually burn...they kinda just melt.


Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.

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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Or used to bed down our chickens.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3488 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
FieldsOfLavender
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ballistic is putting them out on the lawn..grabbing a gas can and a match....now, that's ballistic!

I thought about your response. And "crazy" is burning his shit in the living room.


Posts: 199 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
FieldsOfLavender
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a question for everyone. My STBX says what I did is very immature. I am thinking it is deeper than that. For me, it goes to the bone and to my soul. I don't see it as mature/immature. I am PISSED and HURT to my soul.

Posts: 199 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
peridot
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The only thing you did wrong was not donating them all over the state lmao.

Too bad for him, he should have gotten all his shit.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My STBX says what I did is very immature.

My STBX POS went ape shit when I told him after he left that I put all his personal belongings in a trailer on our property we were using for storage. He told me that "normal people" don't "sanitize" their spouse from the house and the spouse is at least allowed the courtesy of picking up their own things. My response? You are lucky it was stored safely in the trailer and not thrown on the front lawn in Hefty bags because that is what "normal" people do when their spouse betrays them for 20 years!

I also had great personal satisfaction in putting his prized suits in an old toilet box... though I highly doubt he even caught on to the irony of that one...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My STBX says what I did is very immature


Yea, as if *his* opinion carries any weight......


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Fuck Me! He said what to you? That you did something immature? Oh I see. So, something like forgetting that when you get married means you don't fuck around with other people, that's not immature? That you can't hold to a sacred vow? That's not immature?

Pot. Meet Kettle.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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FieldsOfLavender
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Fuck Me! He said what to you? That you did something immature? Oh I see. So, something like forgetting that when you get married means you don't fuck around with other people, that's not immature? That you can't hold to a sacred vow? That's not immature?

NatureGirl, you made me laugh through my tears. :( :)


Posts: 199 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's how we roll here!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10026 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Gajit
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Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a nice fire pit that WH built for those cozy nights we used to spend together.
After the D is final, I am going to have a bonfire, complete with marshmallows and s'mores!
Oh, and wine! LOL


Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.

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