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She11ybeanz posted 9/30/2013 09:10 AM

So...I'm trying to sell some of my older younger baby clothes of Piper's on Facebook on a couple of baby/swap consignment pages and apparently Facebook has an inbox called "other" that differs from your regular inbox. This is where email goes from people who are NOT your friends on Facebook I suppose. I did not know it existed until today. So, I went on there to talk to a couple of women who told me that they wanted a couple of outfits and their emails must have gotten dumped there....

and OH MY.... more than just theirs! I had an email from Piper's sperm donor... from like 5 months ago made from a fake account he made...so I promptly blocked that account and of course kept up NC and did not respond.

But...I also had the following email from MOW... who is now engaged to my XWH that was dated from April 1st, 2013 (so this year almost exactly 6 months ago):


Michelle

I wanted to contact you for a peace offering. I have wanted to talk to you for some time. I am sure we will continue to see each other in the future since we share some of the same interests and share a lot of friends. I don't want it to be awkward for either of us. I am not suggesting we be friends, I just don't want to be enemies. Being like that is to stressful and takes up to much energy, and I am sure neither one of us has that kind of time.


I am truly sorry for the past and if there was something I could change I would.


You are an amazing runner and I don't want to compete with you. I am out there for me and I have my own goals as I am sure you do.

I dont know if you are interested in being cordial or not, but I wanted to put it out there. Im not interested in starting an email war with you, I am being sincere in my attempt to resolve all of this. You can let me know either way.

Take Care

MOW

Maybe I am a bitch for not caring about her petty attempt at being nice to me.... but I truly believe that if the shoe had been on the other foot.....and I had destroyed her marriage...and was now engaged to her ex-husband and had been parading around down flaunting it and bullying as well as stalking her for 3 years now, that she would not be so quick to "forgive and forget" and be cordial with me! So forgive me for not being ready to respond to her or even acknowledge this attempt at making her conscience clear of her wrongdoings and her absolute golden ticket to Hell someday.

She got what she wanted. She got my husband. She got my life. She won. Now leave me the FUCK ALONE.

Thanks. I'm done.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:11 AM, September 30th (Monday)]

k94ever posted 9/30/2013 09:16 AM

No Shelly, she didn't get your life. She got life with a cheater and will live the rest of her life having to deal with what she did.

Yup...continue to ignore her. Obviously she was trying to take the "higher ground" with this to validate that what she and your Ex did was not so bad.

You are destined for so much more.


k9

SisterMilkshake posted 9/30/2013 09:32 AM

Blah, blah, blah, blah Sounds like selfish bitch language to me, and I don't understand it.

Maybe I am a bitch for not caring about her petty attempt at being nice to me...
Not at all. The audacity of some people who come into our lives, blow it up, reduce it to rubble, stomp on the rubble, but, hey, lets play nice now.
Now leave me the FUCK ALONE.
Exactly. And, fuck off and die, MOW while you're at it.

She11ybeanz posted 9/30/2013 09:59 AM

Not at all. The audacity of some people who come into our lives, blow it up, reduce it to rubble, stomp on the rubble, but, hey, lets play nice now.

AMEN.

Exactly. And, fuck off and die, MOW while you're at it.

AMEN.

You are destined for so much more.

I really hope so. Somedays when I'm still alone and single after all this time I wonder..... and then I snuggle up with my daughter and remember that I have her because of my ex-husband leaving me. Even though I had her with another asshat...but that's a whole other story. But, she was worth all the turmoil. I just hope my romantic life is not over. I feel too young to die alone. 34 is still kinda young right?

"Higher Ground"... They do have mountains in hell right??? Maybe she is standing on one of the peaks of those..... biotch.

I admit....they had their "big breast cancer awareness 5k and 10k race" this past Saturday...and I couldn't resist but to look at the pictures.... and I HATE how happy they look together.... especially the pictures of them with my ex-family in laws.... it hurts. In one picture she calls my ex-MIL "momma" and I wanted to puke.

I hate them. I really do. I know you shouldn't hold hate and discontent in your heart.... and I want to let it go and maybe someday I will find a way to. But, right now.... I wouldn't feel bad if they got hit by a bus tragically.... not. even. one. tiny. bit. Maybe that makes me a bad person. IDK.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 10:04 AM, September 30th (Monday)]

nowiknow23 posted 9/30/2013 10:14 AM

She got what she wanted. She got my husband. She got my life. She won.
She won nothing of value, Shelly.

persevere posted 9/30/2013 13:47 PM

Yes, she won a real "prize". I remind myself of that too btw. ((Hugs)) and just ignore the email - stick with NC.

She11ybeanz posted 9/30/2013 13:55 PM

((Hugs)) and just ignore the email - stick with NC.

I am. I started thinking about what prompted her to want to write me an email at all after all this time and then I remembered a group run that she showed up to around that time that we both ended up in a group photo together with everyone at the end.... so I did some digging and found the picture just so I could see the date on it....

And lookie lookie.... It was dated April 1st.... same day as her email.

In the photo....I am smiling holding on to my running friends...and she is standing on the sidelines with her arms crossed looking defensive and miserable.... speaks a thousand words...... IMO.

sparkysable posted 9/30/2013 14:12 PM

If you "forgive" her, than what she did wasn't so bad, and she can sleep at night.

Hope she enjoys late night TV

sparkysable posted 9/30/2013 14:14 PM

The audacity of some people who come into our lives, blow it up, reduce it to rubble, stomp on the rubble, but, hey, lets play nice now.
Absolutely!

She11ybeanz posted 9/30/2013 14:15 PM

Hope she enjoys late night TV

Yeah.....cause the commercials will last longer than the sex with XWH....

haha....jokes on her! I bet that was a "BIG SURPRISE" the 1st time they had sex!!! I DID love my husband....at one time.....but he was a second man.

Minute man would have been a compliment....

sparkysable posted 9/30/2013 14:15 PM

I wouldn't feel bad if they got hit by a bus tragically.... not. even. one. tiny. bit.
I'm with you on this one....

redrock posted 9/30/2013 14:50 PM


In the photo....I am smiling holding on to my running friends...and she is standing on the sidelines with her arms crossed looking defensive and miserable.... speaks a thousand words...... IMO.

Nailed it. She wants in and knows that you hold the keys to some of those mutual friends. Peace my ass, she just wants some more territory in your running circles.

She11ybeanz posted 9/30/2013 15:09 PM

Peace my ass, she just wants some more territory in your running circles.

Very true. She KNOWS that a lot of our "mutual" friends know what she did. I certainly haven't kept her little secret for her. If she and my XWH want to rear their faces in my social circles than they have to pay the Piper and deal with who they are and how we all know each other. (and WHY I want nothing to do with either of them!) I wish I could be a fly on the wall when they tell people "How they met?"

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 3:10 PM, September 30th (Monday)]

Housefulloflove posted 9/30/2013 15:33 PM

I don't want it to be awkward for either of us.
Its awkward because of what SHE and your jackass husband did. It's not awkward because of you. You are a normal human-being who wants nothing to do with a nasty POS who doesn't care about anyone else. She's an idiot who thinks that just continuing to exist is enough to excuse any horrible thing she has done. People who are full of shit say one thing and do the exact opposite.

I am not suggesting we be friends, I just don't want to be enemies.

Again, these words do not match her actions. Bitch needs to get a clue! When you do shit like that YOU MAKE ENEMIES, not friends or anything friendly or cordial. What a delusional, hot-ass mess. Other than this piece of crap non-apologetic apology letter, has she done anything to create some positivity between you are her? I'm going to bet the answer is no.

Being like that is to stressful and takes up to much energy, and I am sure neither one of us has that kind of time.
This Bitch...People like her make me sick. You know what else takes up a lot of time and energy and creates a lot of stress? A relationship with a married man! So much self-righteous bullshit from someone living like she has no soul.

Let that self-centered POS stay on the sidelines. Ignore her bullshit and show her just how much worth her words have.

She doesn't have your life. She has a poorly reproduced, crap version of your former life. She took the worst part of your life (the unfaithful, POS, cheater) and tried to create a fantasy world with him. You had the illusion of a good man, she doesn't even have that!

Random thoughts posted 9/30/2013 15:51 PM

I think it was fate that you didn't find that letter until now, and from what she and your ex did to you, I'm amazed at her audacity to try to tell you how to live an authentic life.

Yep their still weird ass stalkers.

She11ybeanz posted 9/30/2013 15:51 PM

I don't want to compete with you.

I want to point out this part of her letter as well. She said that because we are both currently in the same age group (running wise) I'm 34 and she is 33. She CAN'T compete with me because she is NOT as good of a runner as me and I have made it my personal mission to KICK HER ASS in every race that she goes up against me in.....successfully I might add!

I remember 2 years ago (almost to the day actually...in October!), she showed up with my ex-MIL to a race and went up against me in a 5k. I didn't know she was there until the turnaround and I saw her on my way back.....oh man....I put it into HIGH GEAR! I got 1st in my age group with 23:42 and she finished 4th at 26:51. She was 3 minutes and 9 seconds behind me.....which is practically a lifetime in a 5k! I really enjoyed getting a medal in front of her at the awards ceremony too...for FIRST!

What did she do after she finished the race...?? She maturely flipped me the bird!

I think it was fate that you didn't find that letter until now

I agree because I am now not tempted to respond. I may have been tempted before. And, not in a GOOD way.

has she done anything to create some positivity between you are her? I'm going to bet the answer is no.

Um... no. All she does is try to shove anything she can in my face about how great she is or be IN my face anytime I see her at a race. She is that annoying girl who purposely laughs obnoxiously loudly above everyone else to get the attention of EVERYONE...because she is THAT important......

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 3:57 PM, September 30th (Monday)]

MyVoice posted 9/30/2013 16:12 PM

GRRRRRR how dare she! Yep "fuck off and die" was my first thought

fourever posted 9/30/2013 16:36 PM


Sorry S'beanz, but what a piece of trash she is!

She wrote it because her fantasy is not working out so well. She's realized, as has he probably, that they don't still fart skittles. They have also realized that they will be looking over their shoulders at each other, and neither of them can be trusted, ever.

So, My Dear,
Smile, laugh and live. You have a wonderful, truthful life ahead of you. They never will.

Artemisia posted 9/30/2013 17:18 PM

Ugh, I'm glad that some of the other people on here can laugh and give you sane advice. Because when I read that email I just felt sick!! Sick, sick, sick. Ugh!!! Something like this would seriously make me blind with sadness and anger. Who do these people think they are?

SBB posted 9/30/2013 17:51 PM

She got what she wanted. She got my husband. She got my life. She won. Now leave me the FUCK ALONE.

Preach it sister!!

This is not her trying to make amends. No way in hell.

Looks like somebody might need some drama llama glue to hold their unicorn together. Sorry, we are fresh out of give-a-fuck over here and we won't be re-stocking.

Block Crickets Block Crickets Block.

Delete the damn email too so you don't revisit it during rough patches.

Fuck.That.Bitch.

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