I agree with DS and Heartache. Except the part about signing off that a question is fully answered. Things come up, new information comes to light or is remembered. I don't want my WH to remember something that would help my healing but figure "oh, well, we signed off and the boat has sailed on that one".
WH destroyed things, and I am trying to regain faith and balance by filling in with truth. I may need to ask a question a million times. If our marriage isn't worth that then I guess that's the answer in my case.
I have found some questions answered enough to satisfy me, and I don't bring them up any more.
When is enough, enough? If it's "done", I think that gradually evolves into a quiet, deep-felt feeling. I think you just "know" that apart would be better than together. I also know that for me, the first year would have been too early to know one way or the other.
I don't even know for sure now.
I wish you all the best in your marriage.